My boyfriend, and my en utero baby's father, has been extremely violent, threatening, and down right scarey. I now live in a safe-house and we visit. He cries and says he is on the brink of a huge change for the better. A part of me says "run!" the other part says its only fair to give him a chance, for the baby. What do you all think?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:51 PM on Jan. 21, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by sarchasmicangel at 2:04 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
I would proceed with extreme caution if you decide to continue having contact with him. Pretty much every abuser "feels bad" and cries and says they'll never do it again...but most of them do.
I believe that people can completely change for the better but that most don't.
Answer by vicesix at 1:54 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by hibbingmom at 1:54 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:54 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by beyondhopes at 1:53 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by clarasusana at 1:56 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by TARARENEE at 1:54 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
I agree with hibbingmom. I'm not saying that people don't change. What has he actually done to change? What has he accomplished since you got to the safe house? Your responsible for keeping your child safe. So what if he isn't abusive towards the child, but is towards you. He goes to hit you or throws you or something like that and you fall on the baby and the baby dies. Or he throws something and "accidently" hits the baby and your baby dies. I would think about all of that because I've read this shit in the paper in the past 3 months.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 1:58 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by TARARENEE at 2:02 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by AhRimommy at 2:03 PM on Jan. 21, 2011