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When meeting a man for the first time what is the things that are a major turn off to you and that will not get him a second date or meeting with you

I cant stand arrogant ass men nor i cant stand cocky ass men and men that know they are to old to bust a sag

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Asked by tinamarie1972 at 6:47 AM on Jan. 22, 2011 in Relationships

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  • if hes dressed like a hobo. or if he thinks hes going to get lucky on the first date

    Answer by marinewife0311 at 6:50 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Bad teeth, bad breath, dirty hair or greasy skin. Talking too much about himself and name dropping. Honking laugh. Too much cussing. Anything that seems "off" like getting too personal or touching too much.

    Answer by lilangilyn at 7:53 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • I dis-like man-sluts, cavemen, holier-than-thou men, unsanitary men, men who still rock the 80's look, white trash , drug addicts & alcoholics, womanizers, mommy's boys, men with more than one child from different mothers, yucky teeth, talks about themselves too much, selfish men, men who don't like kids, men who cannot take list can really go on & on & on. So glad i found the perfect man for me....LOL! I can be very picky...

    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:23 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Well I have been with my hubby for 10 years but I never could stand to be with any man who was controlling or who smothered me. I like to have my space and my time with my friends. I also have to have Trust I have always had platonic guy friends and when hubby and I got together before we made it official I told him I wasn't going to ask him to stop talking to his platonic girl friends if he was ok with my guy friends. So far we have done very well together.

    Answer by dez0717 at 8:24 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • i hate mama boys........ if they seem like their up thier mom's butt then forget it . i want a man not a boy

    Answer by mistik75 at 8:32 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • when in conversation with a first date
    if he speaks very poorly about his past relationships, some bad understandable, but takes no blame, all faults are past women=beware
    if he never asks you any questions about yourself, all talk of himself, when you do talk he brings conversation back to himself=beware
    if he speaks negative about the simple things in life that just happen, can not roll with the punches=beware
    if he trys to correst your grammer=beware
    if he trys to say that you should not feel this way or that=beware

    if he checks out other women when on a date with you (and does not do this discretely)=beware
    if he is rude to wait staff, does not act like a gentleman to you, or says unkind things while epople watching=beware
    if he talks about sexual things and you are not comfortable with this, and he does not notice that you are (or care)=beware
    if he is all hands while talking or tongue when he kisses you=bewar

    Answer by fiatpax at 8:33 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Living in a storage unit and referring to that as "a transition period".
    Says I smell "just like his mother".
    Has a collection of decorative swords hanging on his walls.
    Brings along a tiny dog named "Princess Peanut".
    Wears '80's clothing, including a Polo shirt with a popped collar and aviator shades.
    Insists on picking the movie and picks a "chick flick" because the female star has "amazing knockers".
    Insists on picking the movie and picks Disney's "Tangled" because the female star has "amazing knockers"


    Answer by Fistandantalus at 8:41 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • LOL Fistandantalus!
    If he convieniently 'lost' or forgot his wallet when it comes time to pay
    If he won't talk at all and its like you're conversing with yourself
    He's wearing a tracking bracelet on his ankle
    tats above the chest-face,neck,head
    he still wears his wedding ring because it has "sentimental value"

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:07 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Unkindness (especially towards wait staff and others he has power over)

    Patronising towards me- seems to feel superior or thinks I am stupid

    Violent or hateful, antagonistic. In politics, at work, etc.- Not capable of seeing things from different perspectives

    Mine is all about kindness and respect for all other people (including me!). I'm sure other things would come up, but I've never really dated strangers- and lately with other people I've met, those are the things that I find most off-putting.

    I would love a collection of swords, lol. As long as they were simple, not too gaudy. If he would teach me to sword-fight and we could occasionally play with the swords, I'd be won over (FYI, DH has 2 and I have 2, an axe and a flail)

    Answer by Tracys2 at 9:10 AM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • that use the most annoying pick up lines or try to be too touchy see you later!!

    Answer by ChanQ at 6:00 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

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