Ok ladies. Heres the prob. I have been divorce fr my husband of 10yrs for about 3yrs now. We have 3 kids 2gether. A son whos 11 and 2girls ages 8 & 6. Since then I've dated & had a daughter by another guy whom we r no longer 2gether. He visits his daughter fr time to time and helps out w/ her finacially. Lately I've been having probs w/ my son. He is jus startn middle school & his attitude sucks! He is very disrespectful and disobedient. He always torture my 6 & 8yr old. He never wants to help out w/ household chores. I feel like loosing my mind! When I went to my ex hubby 4 help. He insisted its all my fault. I exposed him to thngs he is not use to dealing with (having another man around & having a new baby). But this guy isnt even around him like that. he comes 4 mayb an hour visit and leaves. This occurs mayb 3 times out the mnth. I thnk its bcus he is entering his teenage years he'll b 12 soon & I thnk its jus one of those fazes all preteens/teens go thru. But he insist on it being all my fault. Smtimes I feel he compares me to his mom & wat he had to endure as a child w/ an abusive step father. Idk.. I know Im up 2 my eye balls in stress trying to juggle everything & keep my family happy & healthy. Can anyone giv me advice on this? Is my ex right? Is there any1 out there who is going thru or been thru similar situations?
I agree with mommy of two388. Teenagers are tough. His body is changing, his hormones as well. He probably confused about being a big guy now. Plus he is body is growing and it is so stressful with teenager boys. They are in growing pain and they can't do that much as when they are kids, because they feel tired and anxious most of the time. This is puberty. I would buy a book for him about puberty (probably it would be good for you to read it as well.) Some of these books are really good and answer loads of questions a parents or a boy can have in that age. Probably the new sibling is not helping as well. But you never know if you don't ask. Probably he would need a male role model for him. Is your parents around? Or try to make him find a hobby where the group leader is nice guy who can teach good behaviour for the boy. Like a coach or something like that. Good luck mummy and hugs.
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