Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

1 Bump

How do I get my hubby to help around the house more...?

I feel like he makes more mess than he is willing to help clean up.

Answer Question

Asked by stormyvawn at 7:06 PM on Jan. 22, 2011 in Relationships

Level 7 (186 Credits)
Answers (7)
  • Agree with him what is his role and what is yours. In our house I do the kitchen and the washing cloths, Tomi does the the hoovering and putting the rubbish out. And we do a cleaning up everything and put it in their place on Saturday. So at least for one or two days every paper, letter, plate, toy is on their place:) But after a time they just sneaks back on the tables... Of course we do some fast cleaning during the week. But usually we are more tired than do anything major.
    Agree with him what is the man's role:) If he doesn't do than leave it. He will do after a time. Or he doesn't you can tell him to employ a cleaner.
    The other good thing it works: you can tell him, he can't do something because he can't do it properly. Men get furious when a woman tells this to them. :P

    Answer by adriennfaklya at 7:15 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Ask him. If that doesn't work read the book For Better or For Best by Gary Smalley. He has a chapter just about that

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:15 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • If he doesn't do his part to help with the chores then he doesn't reap the benefits of clean laundry, homemade meals, and trash bins that don't overflow.

    Answer by misses_nick at 7:21 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Do you work?

    Answer by gulfcoastmom4 at 7:33 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • We both work full-time.

    Comment by stormyvawn (original poster) at 7:43 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Tell him what you need his help with.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:14 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Ask him for help. Express to him what it means to you if he would help you with some things around the house. If he doesn't want to help, don't push, but if you feel he should be helping you, make a valid point and stick with it. Encourage him with praise. Power of positive thinking. Other than that, I have no idea. G'luck.

    Answer by Imortlmommy at 8:00 AM on Jan. 23, 2011

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.