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My friend's DH makes me very uncomfortable. How do I deal with this?

I have known her for over two years now. We hang out at least twice a month and do playdates since our kids are the same age. Anyway anytime her dh is around, I notice him staring at me a lot, and when we do make eye contact, he gives me a wink really seductively. I always feel very uncomfortable and look away very quickly. He is always really chatty also with me. Last weekend, we were all together at their house and we made eye contact again, this time, he gave me a wink again, really seductively and I didnt look away, I just looked at him and then he smiled, and the look on his eyes spoke volumes. I think he has some sort of a crush on me and I dont like that. I wont ever tell my DH because he would takes things overboard and probably stop me from seeing my friend, which I would hate. I also think its not a great idea to tell my friend either. It would end our friendship for sure. I know this because she has confided in me about how they are having problems in their marriage and going to counselling. So now, I dont know what to do. Any advice?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:31 PM on Jan. 22, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Are you sure he isn't just overly friendly?  Maybe he doesn't know that he's crossing your boundries?  My friend and her hub share a cell phone.  Sometimes when I text her he will start up a conversation because she is asleep or something.  I'm uncomfortable with it so I don't respond until I know my friend has the phone again.  I don't think he's flirting, just lonely but it's past my own comfort level.  Maybe you should mention it the next time they are over.  SO, he gives you a wink and you ever so kindly ask him if he has something in his eye, lol.


    Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:34 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • lol thats actually really a good idea

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:35 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Maybe he knows how much it bothers you so he uses it to his advantage.


    Answer by Simplicity3 at 8:36 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • lol id definantly take him to the side n ask wtf his problem was..but im blunt kinda prson..

    Answer by sandraberke at 8:36 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • i'd ask to take the playdates elsewhere, like the play area at the mall, a park, ect.

    Answer by armywife43 at 8:37 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • Make the play dates somewhere else so you don't have to go around him.

    Answer by aheuszel at 8:39 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • I'd stop looking directly at him. He probably thinks you like it so he continues to do it. Ignore him.

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:39 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • personally, I'd figure out a way to keep your distance from this guy. If it could cause problems with your friend then so be it. I know you don't want to, buy you don't want to end up in a compromising position.

    Answer by ItsMe89 at 8:39 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • I'd tell my friend. If he's doing this to you,odds are he's making eyes at some other ladie(s)

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:40 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

  • bold of him to wink at you with his wife there...I'm gonna agree with sandraberke on this one...I'd be blunt about it

    Answer by MommyH2 at 8:41 PM on Jan. 22, 2011

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