I want to know what you would do if you found out after 5 years of marriage your husband has been having a affair you think the whole time, And he got her pregnant while you were pregnant and didn't come home when you gave birth but was there when she gave birth. And let me remind you he was the love of my life and I trusted him with all my heart and soul. I never ever thought he would ever cheat on me.I only had eye's for him!! When I found out he asked me to forgive him and told him I will never forgive him. And he could go back to her. He told me nobody is prefect and I should forgive him for that reason. I told him that is never going to happen my kids and I will be just fine without him.
Answer by colethky at 10:00 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Syphon at 9:42 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by CassiRae3 at 9:44 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
If he wrecked the car...forgive him, if he spent too much money....forgive him....if he treated you and your marriage as nothing more than a pastime so he could play elsewhere....DIVORCE!!! I'm so sorry for what you're going through...want me to punch him in the frank & beans for ya?
Answer by how_reb at 9:47 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by mandaday at 9:49 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by zperez0809 at 9:41 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by bjane01 at 9:45 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 9:48 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
This is very difficult and unless you have been through it and the person (DH) is the love of your life you can't actually give good advise. I have been there and done this. In my case it wasn't a long time affair it was many women over the years. And, never did he have a child with that person that would have just broke me. In my case I did finally get to the point that I couldn't deal anymore and I told him to leave. We were separated for a year and he did come back to me. We go to therapy he goes to therapy and he was diagnosed bi-polar which was causing him to act like he was.
That being said you have to decied what you can live with? Can you get passed this? Can you trust him? There is another child which means there is a constant reminder. I think therapy. Good luck you can friend me if you need to vent.
Answer by christinato at 9:59 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:02 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
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