A friend of mine who i s not with her daughters father find herself in this situation. His own mother witnessed this and is concerned. she lefted the child with the father today to go to work and heard the child crying and screaming. The child was screaming to the father :i dont like ou" and begging the mother to stay home. The mother reached work and can still hear the child crying. the father has been constantly accusing the mother of abusing the chils and accuses teh mothers whole family. He called dss at one point and they realize his claims were bogus, . he called police at some point they came to the house and saw the child is well taken care of. Whenever the mother leaves the child with her family or his mother or even an emergency daycare teh child is ok and does not act out in this manner.. Do you think the father is abusing teh child and accusing the mother because he is doing it?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:35 AM on Jan. 23, 2011 in General Parenting
I wouldn't automatically jump to any conclusions but I would make sure that is certainly not what's happening. I would take her to the Dr. make sure physically that nothing has happened. I find it odd that he screamed abuse when she is screaming like this only when with HIM. I would definitely check into it. In the meantime, no my daughter would not go over there until I found out what is actually going on.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 10:42 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 10:44 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 10:48 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Melbornj at 10:50 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Children are mirror. It is not evident the father abuse the child. IF the mom or the people around her talk about the father like he is bad man than the child can mirror them and tell to her dad 'I hate you'. She can be scared because the mom and her family suggest her 'daddy is not safe'. And daddy doesn't live with them so he is turning to a stranger anyway. Loads of time parents have no idea what are they doing only with their words in their children's life. Whatever they say the child will copy. So before they accuse the father with anything it would be nice to look into themselves. Maybe the father accuse them with abusing because he can see the strange behaviour of his daughter against him. So he think the child is being abused because of the behaviour change. So before the mother goes any further with accusing she has to find out what does the kid mirror...
Answer by adriennfaklya at 10:50 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
2. If there is any evidence the father abuse the child than go for the doctor and the counsellor. But if this behaviour is only because they talk about the like like he is a bad person than they can save loads of bad hours for their daughter and themselves if they just start to talk about the dad as a good person. Children can hear and understand everything. And they adjust everything in their world. Loads of people think children can't understand anything so they talk in front of them. But it is not true they don't understand. They do. And they have their answers. Grown-up should learn about children more:( Poor kiddo.
Answer by adriennfaklya at 10:56 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by mrssundin at 11:00 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
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