Okay so, i'm having a little boy basically ANY day now. And previously my brother (who's autistic) (yet, he has his license, graduated highschool and college, and works everyday at a legit job).. Told me months ago that if my son would call him DaDa he would let him. Immediately i got really nervous. Being that my son isn't his father nor will he ever be.. (not trying to be harsh). He constantly throws these little fits on how i didn't choose him to be the God Father, I chose my closest cousin who's been through everything with me.. He tells me I never call him unless I need something. For example last Friday the family was at my grandmothers celebrating her 69th Birthday party. And since he stepped in the door he was in a horrible mood. Responding to my grandma's questions trying to make sure everything's okay with "MHM" or "Whatever". Like a 2 year old. Then he'd say "Oh no, i shouldn't be like this..". Then ten minutes later he'd do the same thing. Basically all through out my pregnancy he's tried to basically put himself as my father's son which will never happen. He's told me if i wasn't his sister he'd marry me, which kind of freaked me out also. He tells me how he watches porn and how "bad he is". And sends me forward messages with boobs and penis' in them. Which is just in general not something he should be sending his sister. I've told my grandma about this but she's a typical grandmother and made the excuse that he doesn't have a girlfriend, and he doesn't have anyone to talk to.. da da da. So, I need some serious advice on this because i'm going absolutely nuts. I stressed to him that i did NOT want anyone at the hospital besides my dad and grandma the first day my son is born. (mainly because he'll try to spend ALL the time with my son).. And another thing that erks me is how he holds my cousin's 5 month old baby and stares at me like "Look what i'm doing!!! see see see!!". Maybe i'm being to cruel.. I don't know, i just need some advice!
Thankyou in advance(:
Answer by Scuba at 10:58 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
I agree with Scuba, that is exactly what I was thinking. This behavior is not acceptable and it makes you uncomfortable. I would have a sit down conversation with him and someone that you trust and ask him to go to therapy.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 11:12 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by But_Mommie at 11:17 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by scout_mom at 11:21 AM on Jan. 23, 2011
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