So my mother in law use to be a very successful and respected woman in her day. A few years ago, she lost her home, and began picking up odd jobs here and there. She finally got a job working for a construction company as an admin assistant. She makes good money, and lives alone. She barely have any bills to pay, and her mortgage on her new home is only $500 a month, but yet she is ALWAYS broke. Recently she would lie about where she is and or what she is doing. Her son, my hubby, talked to her about it and told her that she does not have to lie to us about what she is doing, she is a grown woman and can do as she please. But it's starting to affect her relationship with our children. She would always tell us she is coming over, and NEVER show up. We would call her and ask were she is and she would lie and say she it at home sleep, but usually when we call her it's because we are outside her home. One night we left her alone with the kids, 1 and 3 @ the time. When we got home, my poor babies were sitting on the couch hugging each other. She was passed out on the couch, fast asleep. Looked like she did not move since we left. My babies must have been hungry because we found food on the floor, fridge open, and juice spilled in the kitchen. I told my husband I did not want her to watch the kids anymore and since that day she has not, but offers all the time. (I would rather leave them with strangers).
Today she told my hubby she would come over and cook. Well she never came, so he called her and left some pretty nasty messages. Soon after she showed up. She told my husband, when he called her earlier in the day that she was at the grocery store picking up food to cook. When she came over she was empty handed. He asked her why and she said that the store did not have what she wanted. BULLSHIT!!! Anywho SHE SMELLED ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE, AND LOOKED LIKE SHE WAS NOT ALL THERE and refused to make eye contact with me. We don't know if she is on drugs because, well we just don't know what to look for... HELPPPPPPP
Should I set some boundaries and talk to her??? Or should I let my husband do it, and not overstep my boundaries???
Asked by Anonymous at 4:59 PM on Jan. 23, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 5:01 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by twinsplus2more at 5:02 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Gnomeofmyheart at 5:08 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Sounds like drugs to me....and I've got plenty of people in my family who have drug problems so I can recognize the warning signs. Hope you can get her help!
Answer by banana-bear at 5:12 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by rebeccadac at 5:16 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by LoriaAnn at 5:18 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 5:37 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Diana K. at 5:51 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 6:24 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Next question overall
Would you rather be fat and happy or anarexic and hungry.