Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Need opinions please!!!

Okay.. so here's a question for you. You receive a wedding invite in the mail. It's addressed to Mr. and Mrs. (your name here). It's a cocktail party, black tie optional. What does this mean to you? And when you RSVP who do you RSVP for???

 
pilarash

Asked by pilarash at 4:49 PM on Jul. 7, 2008 in Just for Fun

Level 1 (0 Credits)
This question is closed.
Answers (18)
  • Pilarash "We tought that people would realize that a 7pm cocktail reception was meant for adults only... apparently they didn't read between the lines! LOL"

    Actually people just haven't been taught etiquette...so in all honestly they don't know any better... We've had issues with people inviting other people along etc...you have to nip it and tell them to learn etiquette.
    SAHMinIL

    Answer by SAHMinIL at 7:24 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • That I better come in a black tie.... and would RSVP to at least the bride ASAP if there was no RSVP listed....

    Also are you sure it wasn't one of those "save the date" cards? My SIL sent everyone "save the date" cards and then when it got closer to the wedding she sent everyone the actually invitations with RSVP info....

    I guess the "save the date" has become very popular and some view it as a must.....
    SAHMinIL

    Answer by SAHMinIL at 4:56 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • Only RSVP for you and your husband, or whoever's name is on the invite. If only 1 of you are going, then RSVP for that one person. It is polite to send it back even if you're not going and to write in that neither of you will be attending. I just got married last year and it is maddening when people do not respond at all.
    danielp

    Answer by danielp at 5:14 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • Here's a more direct way of asking this... Do you bring your kids and what should you wear?
    pilarash

    Answer by pilarash at 5:25 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • Are you asking if your kids are invited? Not if their names are not on the invite. Black tie, means very nice clothes, at least a suit and tie for a man, and a fancy dress for a woman. If it said to RSVP, you should send it or call that person. If It didn't say I would call the Bride (or the Groom if that is who you know better).

    Save the Date cards are very popular. If all the information isn't there, I bet that is what it is.
    Simonsmama

    Answer by Simonsmama at 5:26 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • A Black Tie Optional or Black Tie Invited gives you the option of wearing a tuxedo or formal dress, but it should clue you into the formality of the event, meaning a dark suit and tie would be your other option. Women wear cocktail, long dresses or dressy evening separates.
    vbruno

    Answer by vbruno at 5:31 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • My friend is having a fancy EVENING wedding, cocktails and tapas at a country club. the event is black tie optional. She's received 80 RSVPs equalling 180 guests (she's still waiting on 150 more invites). People are bringing all their kids!
    pilarash

    Answer by pilarash at 5:34 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • I would take it like this: Black tie is optional, which really means, wear a tux. As far as the kids being invited, if it didn't say "family" on the invite, no kids. Formal wear for a woman would be considered as a cocktail dress, or any dress. Just no pan suits. Hope this helps!!
    krisstencarmela

    Answer by krisstencarmela at 5:36 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • You wear black tie which means that this is a classy event. You in a formal and DH in "black tie" tuxedo. It is optional..but Is it really optional ...if they didn't care..they would not have requested "black tie" at all. RSVP for whomever is coming..the persons listed on the invite. If you will attend. If not RSVP that you will not be able to show "with regrets". If the children are not listed on the invite..they are not invited. Sounds like a swanky event...lucky gal. Go buy a new dress, shoes, purse, and rent a tuxedo for the man. Have a blast!
    MommasCooCoo

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 5:39 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • You wear black tie which means that this is a classy event. You in a formal and DH in "black tie" tuxedo. It is optional..but Is it really optional ...if they didn't care..they would not have requested "black tie" at all. RSVP for whomever is coming..the persons listed on the invite. If you will attend. If not RSVP that you will not be able to show "with regrets". If the children are not listed on the invite..they are not invited. Sounds like a swanky event...lucky gal. Go buy a new dress, shoes, purse, and rent a tuxedo for the man. Have a blast!
    MommasCooCoo

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 5:39 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

close Cafemom Join now to connect to other members! Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN