My 10-year-old has been a bit moody for the past year, and there have been signs of puberty, so I chalked it up to that.
However, this past week she's been quite weepy, and in the past month, she's been weepy over things that she previously was used to. She's been attending sleepovers at Grandma's since see was 6-weeks old (monthly, at that!). She's had sleepovers at friends' houses and not needed to come home. And she's begged for sleepovers with her cousins at her other Grandma's house many times (and gone to them).
But lately, she gets anxious and cries, and then gets stress-induced stomach aches. I've tried to find out everything -- even the possibility of someone being inappropriate with her -- and she said she's just worried she'll become homesick. But, she'll start to tear up every time it is brought up. She'll cry herself to sleep. Last night, she started crying right before we were ready to leave her at Grandma's for one overnight (it was 7p). She's very quiet about it, and doesn't do it for drama. She doesn't use it to "gain" anything, and half the time we have to drag it out of her re: something being wrong. We told her it was ok, she could come home if that's what she chose (which she did). She cried all the way home...one hour.
And the latest...last week she had a one-hour bus trip to an away basketball game with grades 4-6 at her school. She has been on oodles of field trips, bus trips, and sports events before. This time she said she was afraid she'd have no one to talk to. However, she is a well-liked child and is rarely in a conflict. Her teachers report this year after year, that she is the best student to have because she gets along so well with others. I checked it out...she says she isn't getting bullied and there are no reports of it. (Its a small school, 13 kids in her grade).
So why the sudden anxiety with this stuff? My husband (her dad) and I get along well and hug and kiss in front of the kids...I've asked her if she's ever been worried about divorce (since it comes up with kids at school, and her grandparents are all divorced) and she says no. I'm just totally at a loss. She isn't a sheltered child, and usually is very confident.
Just her age??
Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by hellokitty1978 at 11:14 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by irishcoffee at 11:16 PM on Jan. 23, 2011
Answer by grismelda at 4:47 PM on Jan. 26, 2011
You can first let her know you are then when she is ready to tell you what is upsetting her. You could get her to see the school counsel.
Answer by HomeAlone45 at 2:14 PM on Jan. 27, 2011