O.K. my stepfather was a horrible man. He ruined us in every way and emotionally damaged us in other ways. We still aren't over it (my sister, mom and I) it's been 8 years. I know that's not healthy, but I thought i was getting over it more than I am, but his son tried to contact me on facebook. I know he didn't do those things, but he is part of a life chapter I closed and didn't want to go back to. I feel like if i contact him, my ex stepfather will have access to parts of my life he has no right to. That he will always be lurking in the shadows. My mother friended the son. She said he is our brother (not biologically) and we should accept him, and i don't want him to think i hate him, (just his father). But that's not a place or memories i want to return to. Let me know what you think i should do, or any advice you could give. I am emotionally worn out from it and i don't know what to do.Answer Question
Answer by Busimommi at 12:12 AM on Jan. 24, 2011
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Answer by amessageofhope at 12:46 AM on Jan. 24, 2011
You definitely have some issues that are making you ill (emotionally worn out). You need to deal with this situation, and then you can put it behind you. I also had the same sort of situation, only it was my REAL Dad, not my step-dad, who was horrible! You said of your stepbrother, "i don't want him to think i hate him, (just his father). But that's not a place or memories i want to return to." I am emotionally worn out from it and i don't know what to do.
You must sincerely inform your stepbrother EXACTLY how you feel, that you do NOT want to have any sort of relationship, etc. Take a deep breathe and just email him. Extend you regrets, and apologize. Then block his name, etc. from your FB acct. No biggie. But it will be done and over with; you should inform your mother that you have done so, and ask her to please refrain from mentioning anything about you/your life to him. Done deal.
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