i have 3 girls, ages 4, 2 and 1. for some reason, i always feel like i need one on one time with the oldest. when in reality, i never really do anything one on one with the younger two. today, i want to take them to this nice playground on the beach while my oldest is at school, but i also feel bad about not waiting til i pick her up so we can all go. when really, she's at school having a good time with her friends, getting plenty of interaction and play time there. so i dont have to wait, but i just feel like i should.
the reality of the situation is as being a stay at home mom, with no help from my mother in law, a husband who's going through his own personal crisis, my mom working 50 hours a week and living 20 minutes away, and my dad being in his 60's, it's virtually impossible to get any one on one time with any of them. so we end up going everywhere/doing everything together which is okay as family time is important too.
anyone else feel guilty about not getting as much one on one time with your children as you'd like? im wondering why some people believe its important for your oldest child to have special mommy/daddy time, but not the younger ones. it would be ideal to have that time with all of them, but also not feasible most of the time. the only one on one time i get now with my oldest, is when her sisters are in bed and she gets to stay up a little later. and that seems to be working, so i dont know why i feel bad about not taking her to the park or a movie just the two of us.
This happens to me often. I THINK I'm spending too much time with one of them but then my husband will point out that I am not spending enough time with the other 2. Don't beat yourself up over it. Right now, I am doing things with all of them just to keep things even but we have in the past when the money was available, taken each child out seperately to buy something just for them. It's called "mommy day". We spend the whole day together.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 11:09 AM on Jan. 24, 2011
I have no help unless hubs is home. I put the youngest to bed an hour earlier then the other two. I let dd paint my nails or we just gab about her day. Oldest ds and I read a story together or play his games together. I get plenty of one on one time with the youngest while the older two are at school.
Sometimes all 3 kids and I cook together. The youngest basically chases us all with a spoon. lol
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