so it would seem like a blessing to have a husband who is home every night, right?
well in my situation it's not really. he does have an anger/ptsd problem so i am being as supportive/understanding as possible. but my husband (before we got married/had children) was never the one to turn down an invite out with friends or an evening out period.
this saturday, we had a babysitter for the first time in ever. and they weren't going to be returning to us til sunday afternoon. we took advantage of it by going to hooter's for dinner with another couple we're friends with. he wanted to go to his other friend's house afterward, who just moved in and he wanted to check out the house and have a few beers. i really didn't feel like going far (his friend moved about 45 minutes away) so i decided i would hang out with the couple and he could go out there. i figured a "guy's night" would be great for him. anyway, about 3 hours later (it's around 10 pm now) he called and asked if i needed a ride home from the bar me and the couple were at. i said i wasn't ready to go home yet, the couple had already offered to take me home but i said i would love it if he would meet us, hang out for a little while and we could go home together.
he said he was tired and just went home and went to bed. he works 50 hours a week and never does anything or goes anywhere outside of work. this would have been a golden opportunity for him. but i didn't argue, if that's what he wanted to do, fine.
anyway, i was ready to go home by midnight but the couple was my ride. they wanted to party longer and go to eat again after, so i didnt make it home til 3 am. i still had a great time though.
last night, an old mutual friend of ours from highschool (who i also hung out with at the bar) wanted to come over and my husband said it would be okay, until he found out he wanted to bring his friend (who was also at the bar) that he's only met once. so he said no, only matt could come. matt didn't want to ditch his friend, so he didn't come. all understandable i suppose.
this just isn't the typical behavior of my husband. once or twice a week, his friend from work goes fishing, invites hubby and he doesn't want to go. my husband LOVES fishing. i always try to push him to go (not too much) but he doesn't want to. he knows he can if he wants to, and i don't think it has anything to do with feeling guilty for leaving me at home. im the one telling him to go lol! i always think him having these opportunities may help him get out of his funk and get his mind off the anger. now im wondering if he is depressed, too. i just don't know what to do for the poor guy.
Answer by 21lisa72 at 6:02 PM on Jan. 24, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 12:08 PM on Jan. 24, 2011