I just realized I am enabling my son..kinda?
I mean he is 14 and has always had straight A's. Now he has F's and doesnt care. So I am running around setting up study hall meeting with teachers, driving all over hell and back to "help" him and he isnt doing anything. Even when he gets his work done he "forgets" to hand it in. So am I enabling? or am I being a regular mom? (LOL)
last night he did 10 pages of back homework, today he is in bed with a sore throat ( for real) and I am thinking I will drive in to town and hand it all in for him pick up whats being missed. normal enough but its every week something! not missing school every week just I find out from teachers that he isnt doing his class work during class time...normal enough I hear but do I let him fail? learn his lesson or kick his butt until he catches on and moves on to a new chapter of his life??
I feel like I am over parenting but if I stop he will fail.
OK before I get jumped on LOL I am strict, yes I take things away and yes I praise the good.
No he isnt on drugs and nothing major has happened.
Answer by NannyB. at 12:01 PM on Jan. 24, 2011
what I was thinking is that you would be enabling if you just stood by. My dd's friend is failing Government and if she doesnt pass the final exam she wont graduate. The kids where doing a study session yesterday with my dd being the one to help these friends. We stopped to get lunch before going to the study house and I had dd call this friend, she said she was busy, too busy to study? I drove over there and we picked her butt up and drove to the study house. Enabling? No, it was her choice to study or not. but I feel I did the right thing by doing the proper footwork to get her to where she needed to be. I also told her she is not sitting next to me at graduation, she is going to be out there graduating with her class!! :)
Answer by beyondhopes at 12:01 PM on Jan. 24, 2011
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