i think i have come to realize that my mil will only babysit when my husband asks AND when it's for his benefit too. the reason i think this is, the both of us went out saturday night for like the first time in ever, my mom had our older two children and she watched the baby. he asked her to, and she said yes. i ended up running into one of my best friends at the bar, and he invited me to go with him to this parade we have in our town every year called Gasparilla. my mom always has killer hours at the end of the month and works til 5 saturday. so when i picked up the baby on sunday, i asked her and she flat out said no. i just shrugged it off and thanked her for babysitting the previous night. but the friend i ran into, said his mom would watch the baby for me, so now i would only have to figure out the older two. (ive known his mom for 10 years so i trust her, actually the friend im speaking of is the children's godfather) anyway my husband has to work til 3 that day and the parade starts at 1. MIL knows he's working. i told her this morning about my friend's mom offering to watch the little one and would she mind watching the other two, and i havent heard back yet. i have a strong feeling the answer would still be no. but i know in my heart of hearts if hubby was off that day, she would babysit all 3 of them because he would be going.
i got to thinking if i am in the wrong here. if i should only ask her for babysitting favors when hubby can be involved. my mom has watched all 3 in the past when hubby and i had to go out of town for his court-related business, but maybe she is just a nice person who loves her grandchildren and would use any excuse to spend time with them, unlike MIL who is always just "obligated to". MIL lives 5 minutes away and sees them less than my mom who lives 20 minutes away.
i do not ask for babysitting often, as a mom of 3 i rarely have the energy to even do anything these days. and i have tried to include MIL in all kinds of things non-babysitting related and she never wants to. so.. is it only fair to ask if hubby is involved?
Answer by dullscissors at 9:49 AM on Jan. 25, 2011
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Answer by lillie70 at 9:56 AM on Jan. 25, 2011
I can see where you'd be troubled by the action of your MIL. A day with a friend doesn't mean your cheating on your hubby and that parade really isn't child appropriate so don't blame you there for not wanting to take them. I guess your will just have to ask her when hubby is going or not at all. Actually I'd choose the latter......good luck hon
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