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i'm a bad wife

A amonth ago i lied to DH about taking my pill everyday only because the pill was causing some problems for me not because i was trying to secretly get pregnant and he's so gun ho about us waiting at least 4-6 years for our last child...well i was due to get AF about 2 week's ago and took a pregnancy test this morning while he was at work and it was a BFP...I'm not sure how to tell him i'm pregnant with out him getting to upset because i lied about the pill and get him to understand it wasn't because i wanted to get pregnant...i feel guilty enough so try and keep it polite

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:06 PM on Jan. 25, 2011 in Pregnancy

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  • Always start with the truth. He needs to know now that you tricked him into getting pregnant. If he finds out later it may cause a lot more problems. Tell him ASAP. Waiting will make things worse.

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 1:08 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Don't tell him at all. Just say the pill failed. Why should you have to wait when he was ready for another baby. He should have compromise with you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:09 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Since you didn't quit taking it to get pregnant, you need to sit down with him and tell him why you had stopped taking it and then let him know that you are pregnant.
    Good luck!!!

    Answer by SharMarEpp at 1:12 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • this is one secret i would take to the grave and it is possible to avoid any hardship with him because the pill can fail all the time, really, ask your doctor and he will tell you the same thing. but as far as telling him your preggo .......... i would make it a special night and tell him in a creative fun way and make the best out of it

    Answer by mistik75 at 1:14 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • i wouldnt tell him you stopped taking it, just say you arent sure how it happened but youre pregnant

    Answer by pookipoo at 1:15 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • What's done is done, you can't go back. But in the future, you need to tell him when and why you go off the pill. Men don't understand what all those hormones do to a person, but if you told him before you got pregnant, you could have used other bc methods.

    He's going to be mad, but you need to tell him the truth. Lies just breed more lies.

    Answer by corbysmom531 at 1:16 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • i did not trick him into anything i wanted to wait as well my last pregnancy was aweful i had to be on bed rest for 7 months and i fought like hell to keep my daughter in and still ended up giving birth to her 9 weeks early ....I had a doctors apt set up for the 2nd of feb to talk about a new birth control plan...I wanted the IUD

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:16 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Its not fair for you to be raising your husband and your child solo and it is not fair to him for you to make that call on your on.

    Answer by tonie71 at 1:17 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • i think you need to tell him. you dont want him to find out later. just tell him why you stopped. he may have good feelings about having a baby, but he will probably be upset you didnt tell him about the pill so you coulda used a condom.

    Answer by sandjmom99 at 1:18 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • I wouldn't tell him. What's done is done. It will only make him angry. U are not a bad wife. U just made a decision to take things into ur own hands bc it was important to u. This baby was meant to be here for a reason or it wouldn't have happened even if u tried. Just be honest with him frm now on, minus this. ;) Unless u just can't stand it & have to tell him. Good luck w/ whatever decision u make.

    Answer by melrose79 at 1:22 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

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