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My daughter 3 started hitting and biting what is the best way to deal with this

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tonie71

Asked by tonie71 at 1:08 PM on Jan. 25, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Keep a close eye on her and when you see it about to happen, teach her to share and reward her when she does...but do not hit or bite her..that is not teaching anything.
    Momforhealth

    Answer by Momforhealth at 1:15 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Constant, vigilant supervision.

    When you start to really watch her, you can see things escalating --and she's still small enough to pick up and hold firmly so she can't do any damage to anyone, including herself-- so you can hold her hand as she takes a backswing, you can press her forehead gently away from whatever she's lunging at to bite (that actually works with adults, too... one single finger on a forehead and they're nearly immobile, which is pretty funny, really!)

    3yos, for all their ability to speak and walk around like mini-adults, are still much more toddlers than school-age kids --especially mentally and emotionally. Do not expect a 3yo to be any better at taking orders or remembering rules than an 18mo. In some ways, they're actually not as good at it.
    LindaClement

    Answer by LindaClement at 1:15 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Do NOT hit or bite back, that will teach her nothing. When you notice that she is going ot hit or bite, REMOVE her from the situation..distract her. Keep her busy. Biting and hiting usually happen when a child is bored or is frustrated and doesn't know how to verbalize it. Teach her the words she needs. Talk to her and ask her why she bit or hit. Talk to her how that hurts and ask how she would feel if someone bit or hit her. It may take someone (a friend or cousin or sibling) to bite or hit her to make her understand.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 2:59 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • Time out.............3 minutes in a time out spot....no talking to her during that time.....when the three minutes is up...she HAS to say she is sorry for hitting or biting.....if not BACK to the time out spot....biggest thing for you is NOT to talk during those 3 minutes , stay calm yourself....and always make sure her apology sounds like she meant it.
    MSugarKane

    Answer by MSugarKane at 6:08 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

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