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How Can I Get My 1 1/2 Year Old To Stop Hitting?

She Bites Pulls Hair And Slaps.. Not Only Me But Our Dog And Her Dad And My Parents.. ):
Pleasee Help..

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Asked by EmmiesMommy06 at 4:37 PM on Jan. 25, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Teach her. Just tell her to stop. If she keeps doing it then when she goes to hit grab her hand (gently) and tell her no then replace the hit with kisses. Show her how you want her to act. Kids learn through imitation.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:40 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • This is the primary reason children need parents. You're bigger and smarter and stronger... you can stop her.

    You can pick her up and move her, you can hold her so she can't do it, you can catch her hand as she swings backwards and you can put a finger gently and firmly on her forehead and push her backwards which makes it impossible for her to bite anything.

    This is not an indication that you have spawned a serial killer. It's normal for kids to be physical and oral and she will outgrow it. The hard task is keeping her from learning that she's a bully, because that doesn't do anything good for people.

    Answer by LindaClement at 4:41 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • DO NOT hit/bite her as this only reinforces that it is okay. When she does it simply remove her and say "we don't hit/bite/slap others". If she goes back to do it then repeat. Repeat as many times as necessary to get her to stop and try to distract her. With the dogs try "we don't hit we pet gently" and take her hand and show her how to gently touch them. It may seem like it take forever at first, but she will eventually learn and stop doing it.

    Generally at this age it is frustration from not being able to verbalize what they want. I taught mine simple sign language to help with this so maybe look into that as a long term solution.

    Answer by aeneva at 4:47 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • too early for time out? i would start time outs. wish i had!!! lol. its only a minute and she should get the point after a few times. good luck!

    Answer by mama2bof2 at 9:59 PM on Jan. 25, 2011

  • If your daughter hits you, immediately take her hand and very directly, but gently say "no hitting mommy. soft touch", and when you say "soft touch" take her hand, and run it over your face softly. She will probably look at you, and either try again, or try to touch you softly. If she tries to hit you again, repeat above. If she tries to touch you softly, gently say "That's right. good girl, mommy loves you." or something like that. Do the same thing for biting and for pulling hair, just change the words you use to reflect the action. Good luck.

    Answer by ladymomtraveler at 10:03 AM on Jan. 26, 2011

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