Hi, I'm not used to chatting on line so hopefully this will reach someone. I"ve been reading Fascinating Woman for a couple of years. I am dating a man who is 56, I am 46 and I have two kids 7 and 8. He has 4 kids from age 30-35 all with spouses and grandkids. We've been dating a couple of years.
When we first met, we both had opposite sex friends that we were very close to. Now, both he and I have let those friends go, particularly ex's. He has one relationship remaining that he needs to have with a daughter-in-law that is very close. She used to send him porn and joke sexually. He told her a year ago that is not appropriate for a father in law and daughter in law.
Now, when we get the families together, he seems emtionally involved with her to me. If I get up from sitting next to him, she sits down, touches his leg and talks, then doesn't let me sit back down next to him. If one of the kids does something cute, they look at each other and smile and share the moment instead of looking at her husband or myself. I feel invisible when my boyfriend is around her. She flirts and hides things behind her back and tells my boyfriend to "come and get it".
He says this is all playful. Her husband (my boyfriend's son) is pushing his wife away. He works out of town a lot and actually locked her out of the bedroom when we were there recently at night and she had to get a screwdriver to get in.
When I brought this up, that my boyfriend and his other son are really close to his daughter-in-law and giving her attention that her husband isn't giving her, he blew up and got angry.
I've been using FW with him for almost 2 years. I love him and normally he is there for me and values me. It seems like we could be close to possibly getting married. I can't see myself living with his relationship with this daughter-in-law. I don't know whether to try to accept this about him or do something else. Is there some other FW perspective or something I can try? Thank you for your thoughts.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:04 AM on Jan. 26, 2011
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Answer by shay1130 at 9:41 AM on Jan. 26, 2011
Here is a bump for you . GL, I feel for ya. It must be difficult every time you see the bi*otch...
Answer by mamacita69930 at 9:51 AM on Jan. 26, 2011