ok, so i was with this guy for over 2 yrs. about 7 yrs ago. he was drunk. no drugs. he would wake up in the morning, drink beer all day, and go to the bar at night. we were both like that actually, i'll admit it. that went on for about a yr. its not right, but we had responsabilities like children or anything, so anyways....he has a daughter, at the time she was 3 i think. maybe 4. well we started getting her on the weekends. one of us had to stop the weekend partying, and do u think it was her father? nope, it was me. anyways, i would take care of her, i did everything. i went to go get her, i dropped her off back home. her father would tag along once in awhile.
that lasted about a yr.
well, oct '04 i had told him, its me or the beer. i was tired of the drinking and partying by then, and i was tired of taking care of his child. i was young and stupid, and would just take care of her enough that she was fed, clothed, and whatever. she would entertain herself the rest of the time. i know, not right, and i regret it now.
so the end of oct i was at a friends house, and he called my cell phone, thinking i wouldn't recognize the number. it was the pay phone at the bar he always went to.
so i went home, packed shit up and he came home. i asked him why he was at the bar and he told me if i didn't like it i could leave. i told him well, look around, the boxes aren't for decoration! long story short, he put me in the hospital. ripped my eye ball open by kicking me in the head, threw me down three flights of stairs, and i broke my foot trying not to fly through a two plate glass door at the bottom. then he used my head as a hammer on the door frame.
i got out, called the cops. he took off.
a week later, i was at my mothers, and he called at about 1:30am. he said he took his father .39 gun and he was at a hotel, and he told me he was going to kill me and then himself. i told him to let me know how that goes and i hung up and called the cops. they went, found him, he was in jail for 2 yrs for having a loaded gun, stolen, and in public.
the only time he has seen his son is when he was leaving the court house in handcuffs, and my son was about 7 months old. he has not seen or talked or anything with my son since then. my ds is now 5. i have full custody, and he has never taken me for visits or anything, no child support was ever in place.
my question is, is it too late to go for child support? should i go for child support? and would he get visitation if i filed for child support?
can i go for child support with no visitation?
is it worth it?
i know this is long, but i really could use the money for my son, as winter is hard here b/c my dh loses a day at work for winter hours, and the money would help with food, and school clothes for ds.
oh i forgot, 4 days after the domestic i found out i was pregnant. and i almost lost ds due to stress.
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