I typically don't talk about this on this site for a reason, but I just want to point something out.... I recently wrote a paper in a sociology class (that I got an A on) that I wanted to share, it's about how difficult the transition to parenthood is, and how there really is no correct way to do anything according to society.
As an example, I wrote about how I nursed my daughter and the feedback I received from society (meaning family,friends, strangers, doctors, and even cafemomers). EVERYONE wanted to say their piece about how I should feed my child and for the most part, NO 2 PEOPLE HAD THE SAME ANSWER. Some people said it's great to see you nursing! Others, specifically my MIL, told me that I was abusing my child because I was starving her, other people just kind of didn't want to say anything and just gave me some looks. I felt that I never knew what to expect and always had my guard up.
For the people that DID support me nursing... after about 6 months, a lot people were kind of like heeeeey don't you think you should stop now? While, when I thought it was time to stop around 10 months other people treated me like I was dirt for not making it another 2 months. WTF!?
I don't know what it's like to exclusively formula feed, but I'm pretty sure you guys go through hell too.
This is why every single one of us, should stick to our guts about what we want for our kids because SOMEONE will ALWAYS tell us we're wrong no matter what. I think it's disgusting that as a society we have to defend ourselves just to feed our freaking kids. Because let's face it, when you become a parent no matter what you do, whether it be feeding your child or disciplining your child, your always wrong. I'm wrong, your wrong, we're all wrong. Thanks society for making the transition to parenthood 100x harder and more confusing than it already is.
I'm sorry that was so long, and I just want to say that as a parent the best advise I have ever received was " my best advise is don't take anyones advice". I didn't understand it at the time, and now I do.
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