Ok I dont know if I am right or wrong here but my mil for the past two years has chosen the theme for my youngest dds bday party. My mil is also a professional cake maker (think Ace of Cake type cakes). Last year I was alright with her picking, because it was something my dd really liked. She spends the night with my mil every friday so she knows what she likes (mostly), but she also babies her alot. My dd will be 6 yrs old and is in cheerleading, has played softball and made alot of new friends in the past year. Her interests have broadened and as much as we ALL want our babies to stay babies they start getting big and liking their own things.
Well this year my mil decided my dds bday theme would be Butterflies. Ny dd loves butterflies but not enough to make it a theme per say. She really wanted Unicorns, or a Cheer theme (her sports team name basically). Well I managed to psych dd up for the Butterflies and found a theme to go with it thats bright pink, and appropriate for her age range and something she loves (bright pinks, yellows etc). I sent it to mil two weeks ago she said it was perfect.
Last weekend we were at one of dds games and I asked what color plates (to double check) to get. She said very pale pink and silver (think baby shower type cake). I was really upset, because again shes treating dd like a baby or toddler and doesnt even consider what she might like, or heck what I might like for my dd.
Am I justified in being upset? I doubt Ill say anything. My dh told me he would handle it from now on since this is the second year its happened. I just feel like Im being ungrateful since she is making the cake. She doesnt do this with the other kids btw, just with my youngest (her only biological grandchild even though she tends to treat them the same). BTW dh was her only child, and shes always been a controlling person (dh said so not me).
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