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Who is happy pregnant & then depressed when baby comes?

This is how I was with my first. I was so happy pregnant, happier pregnant than not pregnant. And then a couple of days after the baby was born I got depressed and cried for no reason. It lasted a couple of weeks. I keep hearing it is worse when you have your 2nd and my 2nd is due in Aug.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:31 PM on Jan. 26, 2011 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • that sounds more like baby blues or post partum dep. not uncommon and it does not necessarily mean you will get with your second. I was a sick pregnant person but LOVED being pregnant and like you, felt at my happiest.. I ended up with PPD and a colicky child which made me very depressed.. I wish you luck.. hope all goes well

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:33 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • It lasted a week for me and was the worst feeling in the world. I dont want to be medicated for long but will talk to my dr about it when I have my second

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:33 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • i think you only had the 'baby blues' as opposed to postpartum depression. it happens to the best of us and its nothing to be ashamed of

    Answer by pookipoo at 5:34 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I was told it was baby blues but I had horrible thoughts. Thoughts that would go with PPP. But after a week I was fine. It was scary though

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:34 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I was like this- but severe- I was suicidal. I was diagnosed with Post Partum Depression put on Prozac when my second daughter was 2 months old. I was on it for about 8 months. I still have rough days now and then, but nothing like that. DD is now 15 months.

    Answer by MyVegasBabies at 5:35 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I suffered from Post -Partum Depression which got worse after each pregnancy and was later diagnosed with Chronic depression. I haven't taken any meds for years but I continue to battle with it. Is there any family history? Because all 3 of my kids have been depressed and on meds. So it's good to talk with your doctor about it.

    Answer by sarchasmicangel at 5:35 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I think that's pretty normal due to homone changes after birth. This does not in any way make you a bad mom or anything, and yeah it sucks really bad!

    Answer by Namaste17 at 5:36 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • Post partum depression. When you start feeling sad, try to DO things, get out if you can, even for a walk with baby. Talking to people helps too. A therapist, or even just a friend or relative. Breastfeeding helps prevent PPD, or make it less severe. These suggestions are all for MILD depression. If it gets to be more then just a little sad, SEE YOUR DOCTOR, you might need medication.

    Answer by Krysta622 at 5:38 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I had PDD with both my children and It was worse with my first. In fact I wish I had asked for help. With my second I was aware of my feelings and able to reach out for help.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 5:39 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My first pregnancy I wasnt happy at all, but was really happy afterwards. My second I was extremely happy while pregnant, but afterwards I got PPD so bad I wound up in the hospital for a week. With my third I was happy and fine afterwards. With my last I was on antidepressants because I had had a prior miscarriage, and my husband deployed when I was 34 weeks so I stayed on it to avoid PPD. I am pregnant with my fifth and very happy, but staying on my meds to be on the safe side.

    Answer by elffyefli at 5:45 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

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