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Are you and your siblings close? Were you growing up?

I have 2 sisters.. we all hated each other growing up - Me and one of my sisters only became close when she got pregnant but I still would not choose to hang out with her as a "friend" and can only take her in 2 hour stints.. My husband has 2 siblings.. they fought all growing up, like physically fought.. and they still don't all like each other.. this question comes because sometimes I wonder about having another child.. my son is 3 and does not like Babies..its odd really.. he doesn't mind sharing or playing with kids older than him, but literally can't be around a baby/toddler.. also.. with our experiences growing up, would it really be THAT bad to have him as an only.. ?


Asked by maxsmom11807 at 5:51 PM on Jan. 26, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I feel like my own kids are closer to one another than I was with my sister or my husband was with most of his sibblings. We both tell them how special that is, and encourage them to do things to strengthen their bond. We are trying to teach them to be kind and do things "just because" for each other.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 6:25 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My sister and I were very close until she started hanging out with the wrong crowd. I can't stand to spend much time with her and I can't stand the way she treats her child. If she hadn't gotten in with the wrong crowd and drug her life down the along path the yes we would be close.

    Answer by coala at 5:54 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • not along but wrong

    Answer by coala at 5:54 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • No its not bad to have him be a only child. He may change his mind later on about liking babies (he is only 3). (my children are 6 years apart). My brother and I have had some disagreements but we are also 6 years apart and never really fought (except once verbally when both adults). we are pretty close. We both kept secrets for eachother growing up. I think my brother is the best big brother I could have ever been blessed with (I have always felt this way).

    Answer by MamaWolf1981 at 5:55 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My siblings and I are all really different in age. I am 24, then we have 20, 20, 16, 15, 7, and 5. I was not close to any of them growing up. Me and the currently 16 year old fought like you would not imagine! Sometimes, my mom would cry because we fought so the 16 year old is my closest sibling. we get along great, we are very similar people etc. Other than that shes the only one, I imagine my 15 year old bro and I will become closer later on in life... we are just so far apart in age and interests. My 20 year old sisters....I am pretty sure we will never really be super close. We get along... but they are just a very different kind of people. As for the young babies...I dont know them time will tell!

    Answer by Tarrar at 5:59 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My brother and I had our disagreements but we were and still are pretty close even though we live in different towns now.

    Answer by countrygirl06 at 6:00 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • I have 2 sisters. an older and a younger. growing up my older sister and i never got along. not sure why but she never really like hanging out with me. we became closer after i had my first child. and my little sister and i have always been close. i had the relationship with her that i always wanted with my older sister. and till this day my older and little sister don't really speak. its sad. i wish we could all be close and be able to hang out and stuff. but that's kinda hard when i live in a different state then them.


    Answer by Christieluv0614 at 6:00 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My sister is 2 years older than me. We were always very friends, our whole life.We used to call each other at least once a day...but usaully 203 times! Until she did something I couldnt ever forgive. Its been alomost a year since Ive talked to her. Even though I cant forgive her I still miss my best friend.

    Answer by Lobelia at 6:15 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • No we are not now, but were when we were kids.

    Answer by momto4girzls at 6:17 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • My sister and I weren't really at one extreme or the other growing up. We lived on a ranch in the middle of nowhere, so we didn't really have any options other than each other for playmates most of the time. So, we played together some, and did our own solitary things a lot too. We fought some, but not that much once we were upper-elementary to junior high school age. As adults we've not spent that much time living in the same state, so our not-that-close relationship has become even less close. My sister is living closer to me than she has in years, but it seems we don't have much to build on, which just feels sad.

    My husband is one of five kids, and he really only has a close bond with one sister. I think it's mostly because she puts forth an effort to make it happen. She's 10 years younger than him, so he was grown up and gone by the time she was 8.


    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 6:19 PM on Jan. 26, 2011