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how can i get my 4yr old to go to bed at a gd time with out fighting and throwing tantrums i have tried everything and she just wont go to sleep or even stay in her room

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Asked by Jocelynn18 at 11:04 PM on Jan. 26, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Stick with a routine and do not give in. If she comes out of her room give her one warning and tell her it is time for bed and put her back. If she contiunes to do so just keep putting her back in bed without saying anytbing. Gl

    Answer by sunsetbeach81 at 11:07 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • Make it a ritual with a couple of choices. Ex. dinner, bath, let her choose which toy goes in bath with her. brush teeth, dress, book (give her a choice of 2 books), bed. It may take a few days but she will love the ritual soon. If not, put a chain lock on outside of door. Just to get her to stay in for a few night til you get over this period.

    Answer by blueyes1 at 11:11 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • We had this battle with our daughter, too. So I started a strict bed time routine. Every single night we have supper at around 6. Baths start around 7. When they are all out, they have a light snack while I read to them. Then we brush teeth, tuck into bed and lights out. You have to stick to the timeline and routine every single night, no matter what. At first, we would leave any funciton to go home and do this routine. After a couple of weeks, she knew what we expected, bed time was much more organized and relaxed and now they are all on the same routine and it works great. After you are well established, you can go off schedule a couple of times and have no problems. Good luck!

    Answer by khedy at 11:27 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • my dd is 5, she has dinner about 6, then bath, then a snack, then brush teeth, then we read 1 short book, then she goes to bed 8pm on a school night and 8:30-9pm on the weekends. stick to a schedual, it will take a few days for her to get into the routine of things and she may throw a fit because she doesn't want to go to bed. but you are the boss, not if she gets up put her back in bed (even if that means several times) she will get use to it eventually and soon you will notice that she'll be tired and ready for bed at the same time all the time. GL.

    Answer by nickellmomof2 at 11:36 PM on Jan. 26, 2011

  • It has been said before but routine, routine, routine really is the best way. If she gets out of bed don't make it a big deal and put her back to bed. If she continues DON'T engage her. She will soon learn that she will not get attention and just give up.

    Answer by MChildressDem at 3:43 PM on Jan. 27, 2011

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