My husband and I are wanting a child (hasn't happened yet) and SO MANY people are saying "it's going to change everything" in some sort of negative way.
Now, we understand that having a child is a life altering experience. We also understand that it isn't all fun (diapers, illness, crying, poor grades, bullying, etc.) but there is allot of fun stuff too! We feel prepared.
Then people say "you won't be able to go out anymore" but when we go out we look around and see people with kids. We played trivia the other night and the people next to us had a baby!
People tell us "you won't be able to travel any more" but on our last 4 trips we've specifically looked and TONS of people have children, even infants. On a cruise to the Caribbean, hiking in the Smokies, a guided tour in Savannah... everywhere we've gone we have seen parents with young children.
So... my question, really, is this: What changed dramatically (in a tough way) for you when you had your child? Is there anything you wish people had warned you about that they didn't?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:01 AM on Jan. 27, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by admckenzie at 1:03 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by MamaAlice54 at 1:08 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
I haven't had any "bad" changes come into play. Life is no longer about yourself. Your thinking will change more than anything in my opinion. Traveling isn't hard with a child, again, just my opinion. Lack of sleep? You will learn how to live on less sleep. Going out? No, it hasn't changed that for us at all. We didn't go to bars, clubs, etc. to start with. There isn't a good way to explain it in depth. Just have to wait and see how it changes you but no, it's not all negative, if at all.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 1:09 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
LIFE you lose a sense of who you are you trade in heals & sexy pants for sweats and crocks lol we all change in some way but i wouldn't say its negative its all part of becoming a parent so don't stress about it don't let anyone take away from your happiness
Answer by ExtremlyUnique at 1:13 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
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