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Does it bother you

when your husband looks at other women? (real women not celebrities) I look at other women and notice if they have a pretty face but men usually look at the body parts so does it all bother you or what?

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:37 PM on Nov. 14, 2008 in Relationships

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  • It would bother me if mine did this. He doesn't do it. If he did I would just look at another guy and he gets way more jealous than I do. So he doesn't look at other girls and I don't look at other guys.

    Answer by Kenzies_momma at 2:45 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • haha that's good.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:46 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • I've always told my hubby he can look but cannot touch. I'm afraid if I told him no looking that he would just want to look more. He says he doesn't check girls out, but he does look at their faces. I also let him watch porn, but I don't watch it with him. The reason I let him is because if he feels "free" I think he would be less likely to rebel towards me. I would absolutely HATE it if he did look at another girl & I don't really care for him watching porn. Because I know there are better looking girls out there than me, but my hubby is always sure to tell me that I am the best looking girl he's seen, & I know its not true, but it makes me feel better & lets me know that he loves me even if his eyes do wonder a bit.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:47 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • I guess it depends. My husband notices but usually its critical - not like his tongue is hanging out of his mouth. He might notice a woman dressed in clothes 2 sizes too small for her shape. He usually gives me a look like "Yikes!" I don't think I have ever felt like he was checking someone out in a lusting kind of way... unless its me :)

    Answer by Serafyna at 2:48 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • I would feel disrespected. Is he gonna like it, if i look at other guys( good looking one)?

    Answer by Proud2bJmom at 2:50 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • My husband looks at other atractive women sometimes but it doesn't bother me...most men are gonna long as its a glance and not a stare then its innocent...good luck and god bless..

    Answer by tall_mom42 at 3:11 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • Oh hell … get a visual … let’s pretend it wasn’t your husband. He’s intoxicated and she flashes boobs -- man looks. Men like boobs. Intoxication delays reflexes. He looked; he saw. Y’all are fine. No worries!

    Answer by idahospaz at 3:45 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • My husband doesn't look, he notices when there is a pretty girl, but he never stares.

    Answer by feesharose at 4:09 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • My husband and I make a game out of it. I look for guys and he looks for girls. It's not like we're shopping or anything, we just like to people watch. We make our fun comments to each other and then tell each other what we like about each other instead of the person we just saw. It's not a comparison thing. It's more like verbalizing to each other more often what we find attractive in each other so we can continue to do those things. Yeah, we're odd, but it makes for a very healthy sex life! :)

    Answer by DRCMAC at 4:18 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

  • It doesn't bother me at all.  It's the nature of the beast!  Men are programmed by evolution to spread their seed which means they are very visual creatures.  Monogamy is not a natural state for us, it was created out of necessity and convenience when we stopped living in tribal units in caves and started living in individual family dwellings within a community.

    The real issue is trust.  I trust my husband and I know he would never cheat on me so I don't feel threatened.


    Answer by beeky at 4:20 PM on Nov. 14, 2008

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