A few debatable questions here...
1. When I was a teen my parents allowed me to drink. I was however responsible about it (minus the fact that I was underage of course). I would go to a friends house (often my parents took me and gave me money KNOWING I was drinking, I was honest about it). I would stay there with my friends, and we would drink and have a good time, safely. The parents would take the keys so no one could leave. Everything was supervised. I felt supervision was important in case something were to happen (which it never did). Do you think this is a good approach to teen drinking?
2. If your teen was honest and responsible, do you feel they should be allowed to have such freedom as this?
3. Do you honestly believe you are going to stop your teen from drinking?
The last question is not meant to be rude, but often parents think they can control everything their teen does. However, this is not the case. I was honest with my parents because they were open with me. We came to agreements. I think that when a child lies to a parent, it is bc of a breakdown in communication. Part of growing up is learning how to make your own decisions and many parents do not give their children this opportunity. Of course, how a parent communicates depends on the personality of the child and the personality of the parent. Do you believe that if proper communication is achieved and your child proves themselves as a responsible person that they should be allowed to make decisions for themselves? Of course, these decisions would have to be in agreement with you.
4.How are your children going to know how to conduct themselves and make good, safe decisions when your not around if they were never given the opportunity when you are around?
I am looking forward to hearing other opinions and seeing how you might take the parenting approach. Of course we all have different views, perhaps some of will learn something from another person. :)
Answer by SweetLoveofMine at 7:30 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by sweetestkitten at 7:31 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by dullscissors at 7:33 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Because of the alcoholism that runs in my family (not to mention a number of other things that are just freaking wrong with this) no, they will not be permitted to drink period. Yes, I do believe that I can stop my children from underage drinking. Keeping the lines of communication open does NOT mean that you have to let your kids drink. It means that I am open and honest with them about alcohol and the effects that COULD happen should they have a drink.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 9:21 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by layh41407 at 7:28 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
I will allow a glass of wine with dinner and the such, but no my teens will not be out doing shots.I think if you allow your teen to drink because you want to teach them how to be responsible with it starting them out on shots of tequila is not they way to teach that.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 10:09 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 8:09 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by tiddliwinks at 8:52 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:45 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by tnmomofive at 12:05 PM on Jan. 27, 2011