DH and I have been married for 7 1/2 years (together for 13 and living together for 10 1/2) and we have a son together. We've never really been one of those couples with an active sex life. I mean, we do it, but not as much as some people, kwim? I mean, it doesn't even have to be about sex, but more wouldn't hurt either.
I've told him that I feel more like his roommate than his wife. We don't do anything together, whether it be to sit and watch TV together or whatever. I watched my parents' marriage crumble (actually I can't ever remember a time when they were actually happy) and they slept separately, and that seems to be where we are headed. He hardly ever sleeps in the bed anymore, choosing to sleep in the recliner most nights. Part of that is due to our son sleeping in our bed, and I know we need to start making him sleep in his (not that I'm against co-sleeping), but I hate going to bed alone.
I wrote him a long letter telling him how I feel. But just wondered if there were other ideas I could incorporate into putting some spark back into our relationship. Any advice would be welcome!
Answer by MsBrazil86 at 11:50 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by april_f at 11:20 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
its none of my business but my word of advice to you is PUT THAT CHILD IN HIS OWN BED!! Women dont understand how important that is , i know its hard but it will be for the best. Your husband and you need that time alone in your bed , to talk , be intimate and just bond without a child in the way...it will be hard at first but put a night light in his bdr and let him cry , yes it will break your heart but you need to be strong and put your foot down , after a few nights or however long it takes he will get the point and get used to it. NOW, for your husband....find a babysitter overnight so you can plan a romantic evening for you both. Rent a hotel room with a jacuzzi , get some rose petals , champagne , bubble bath , aroma therapy candles and massage oil ( bath & body works has nice ones) . iF A HOTEL ROOM IS NOT IN YOUR BUDGET PLAN IT IN YOUR HOUSE, BUT A CHANGE OF SCENERY WILL BE GREAT FOR THE BOTH OF YOU ;).....
Answer by MsBrazil86 at 11:41 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by MsBrazil86 at 11:54 AM on Jan. 27, 2011