my friend & I saw him with one of his college students leaving a movie theater she ducked in the bathroom she was so shocked she didn't know what to say. What do you think they should do? They have been married for 30 years.
Answer by gardenchic at 11:21 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by misses_nick at 11:21 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by Scuba at 11:21 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
No, I would not. I would confront my uncle. I would give him the opportunity to explain and also a chance to let his wife know. Plus a time line. You have two weeks to tell Aunt Sarah about your relationship. It can also be a mistake. If they went to a movie together I might be inclined to think he is out with a friend. I most likely would have gone up to both of them and started a conversation expecting this is his friend. Or teaching assistant. Or whatever. If I truly thought this was cheating I am going to stay out of the middle and handle this with as much sensitivity and grace that I could. Telling my uncle I saw him making out with this student, saw him inappropriately touching and am concerned. I would tell him I understand relationships are a two way street and complicated - I in no way am passing judgement. But I also
Answer by frogdawg at 11:23 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by Groovyflor1 at 11:31 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
can't live with this big secret. I will tell him that I will keep this only between me, him, and my aunt. My preference, I would say, is for him to tell his wife and let them handle it. I would say I am going to give you two weeks and then I will discreetly call and talk to my aunt about my observations. Just the facts. Not that he IS cheating but just what I saw. I will say I have many male coworkers that I have lunch with. Even male friends that I go and do activities with. My husband has no issue with this. He has famale coworkers that he goes to lunch with. Even works out with some of them. We have a good female friend that is a joint friend. Equally we claim her. It is not unusual for them to go out and shop, have dinner, or take our son somewhere. I would hate for people to jump to conclusions and be concerned for a non issue.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:28 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Hmmmm that's kind of a tough one. On one hand I'd want to run and tell my aunt on the other hand I would want to give him a chance to say if it was a friend or an actual date. BUT by the sounds of this situation it may just be a date. I would talk to him and tell him that if he doesn't tell his wife in x amount of days then I would be more than willing to tell her so she's not thinking that everything is hunky dory and come to find out he's cheating on her when he brings her some sort of std or something. Good luck and i'm so sorry you had to see that!
Answer by Bird16_J at 11:29 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by Hyde3 at 11:37 AM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by batjmom at 11:38 AM on Jan. 27, 2011