I very rarely tell someone my opinion unless they ask for it. I don't like to get involved in other people's relationships, but I'm seeing a situation that I think I may be able to help, and want to know what ya'll think.
I have a good female friend who is 25. (I am also a sort of mom-surrogate for her sometimes, her mom isn't involved in her life). She is living with, and engaged to, another good friend of ours who is 45.
She treats him bad. If he's not home she calls and texts over and over because he's not home with her. She nags him if he doesn't do what she wants. She's lazy; she doesn't like to do housework or cook - she expects her SO to do everything. She doesn't treat him with respect, and in turn, he treats her with disrespect as well. They are supposed to get married in September. I have watched their relationship deteriorate over the last few months, they love each other, but honestly my male friend is getting to the point of just wanting to end the relationship. He has said little things, and I can tell by his actions (he prefers to be at our home rather than his) that he is at the end of his rope. I love my GF, but the problem really is with her. I've kept quiet, but we're moving in a few days and I feel like I have to say something to her. (we will still be in contact, but obviously won't be seeing each other almost every day).
I want to tell her that she needs to treat him and their relationship with respect. I want to tell her that a good spouse thinks of their partner's needs/wants as often (or more) than their own. I want to tell her that she is going to lose what could be a good relationship if she doesn't grow up and start acting like a partner to him.
Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 1:24 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by tyfry7496 at 1:26 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by vicesix at 1:27 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by ejglass09 at 1:27 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by Inana at 1:34 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by MaryMW at 1:35 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by -LovingMamma- at 1:36 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by DragonRiderMD at 1:42 PM on Jan. 27, 2011
Answer by admckenzie at 1:45 PM on Jan. 27, 2011