Well I have been married for almost one year. It will be one year on Feb 8th. I have one daughter who is mine from a previous realtionship. She is 4. She knows my husband as daddy but he has not adopted her. We are expecting our first child together in April.
Recently my husband as stated he is not sure what he wants anymore, that he think we may have made a mistake by getting married so soon. He says he is unhappy. He says he loves me but hes not in love with me anymore.
I dont know what to do anymore. I left for two days on his days off and went to my mothers to give him time to think. I have now been back for 3 days and going crazy. I dont know how to act around him. I mean i want to give him his space but I want to feel loved. I want us to start counseling on Monday, separate at first then together later. He needs to figure out his issues. I think he may be depressed. I dont want him to be with me because he thinks he has too, because that wont solve anything.
But what I need advice on his how do I act, I feel so alone. (oh and plus he works second shift and I am a SAHM. and we have one car so I dont do much) I explained this to him that i am trying to be strong to fight for our marriage but this is hard for me to sit here and wait when I could lose him at anytime.
I am going to go to the doctor on Monday for my appt for my pregnancy and see if I get something to help me feel better.
Has anyone gone threw this. I could really use someone to talk to. I'm not sure if this is cuz of the baby coming? or some underlying depression. Hes says I'm a great wife he just doesn't know why thats not enough right now.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:14 PM on Jan. 28, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by dancer at 8:17 PM on Jan. 28, 2011
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Answer by shining5stars at 12:08 AM on Jan. 29, 2011
"He says he loves me but hes not in love with me anymore. "
I heard these same words when DH was cheating on me. Not saying yours is but i have spoken to many women who have been cheated on and in comparing what we all noticed, this line came up A LOT with the women.
I gave him his space of not crowding him and let him come around on his own, this was before I found out about his affair. I felt like I was walking on egg shells for a whole year until I saw a difference in him towards me. Then the's when I found out the news. One whole year after being told this same line.
It's been 4 years later now but i'm not in a happy place. I have given it all I got. I can't come to terms that he did this to us. It's not easy, been thinking of my options lately.
I wish you luck and stay strong!!!!!
Answer by SnapIt at 2:50 AM on Jan. 29, 2011
Answer by hoping73 at 3:58 PM on Jan. 29, 2011
Next question overall
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