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Should a second time mom have a Baby Shower

I have heard both ways. The first baby is 2 and a boy not for sure sex of next baby. Mom got rid of most of the baby stuff as she had no plans for another baby.

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Asked by nanny29 at 11:39 PM on Jan. 28, 2011 in Pregnancy

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  • The "rule of etiquette" is usually...a baby shower is ok if there is 5 years or more between babies. But if the mom doesn't have anything, I would think a small shower would be helpful.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:42 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • i don't see anything wrong with ahving a small shower with close family & friends.

    Answer by danielle1433 at 11:43 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • My mom had a 'sprinkle' when she had my youngest sister. It was after she was born and it was very casual.

    Answer by BabyBugsmama at 11:43 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • I had a small baby shower with my 2nd with just close family & friends. My first child is a boy and my second is a girl so I got a lot of cute girl clothes. It was fun, and my son enjoyed helping me unwrap the presents for his baby sister.

    Answer by Journey311 at 11:47 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • This question gets asked so often that I've been checking etiquette books and websites. I haven't seen anything that says you shouldn't be given a shower for a 2nd...or even 3rd baby....even if they are closer together. I see lots of things about who should give the shower, but if friends want to give a shower to help get ready for a new looks to me like an expectant mom can simply smile and graciously say "thank you"!

    Answer by ohwrite at 11:50 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • i had one for both my kids who are 2 years apart and i plan on having one for this one as well

    Answer by Gen at 11:50 PM on Jan. 28, 2011

  • if someone wants to give u one i dont see the problem. I had two. new baby new excitement.

    Answer by Sky_Mom at 12:08 AM on Jan. 29, 2011

  • I don't think it's wrong...I actually didn't know it wasn't "right" until recently. I thought every pregnancy should get one.

    I definitely don't think it's wrong if the 2nd baby is the other sex or if there's quite a few years in between babies or if someone just wants to throw you one. I think if you're having the same sex, and you still have stuff from the first, then maybe do a diaper party or something like that.

    Answer by dlandrum at 12:27 AM on Jan. 29, 2011

  • Why not? I think if someone wants to throw her a baby shower it's okay. Especially if it's been some years since the first one. Sometimes parents get rid of things they could have reused or the baby's a different sex than the first. I see no problem with it. I'm throwing my SIL a baby shower for her second baby boy.

    Answer by myree85 at 12:31 AM on Jan. 29, 2011

  • I am pregnant with my second and I am having a second shower with close friends and family more for the celebration of the birth of my second. I believe whether it's a first baby or a fifth, they all deserve to be celebrated. :) And since they are all close friends and family, they all know what I need and don't need. And also what I have and don't have. Congrat's on the new baby!!!

    Answer by Brittany1286 at 2:05 AM on Jan. 29, 2011

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