My son sits near the window on the school bus. It's about a 45 min ride to school. He's small for his age, is ADHD/Aspbergers. This kid has been messing with him on the bus, which we did not know about. I get a call on Thursday afternoon, at the time when he should have been walking in the door. There was an altercation on the bus. This kid had hit him on the head with a marker, and my son yelled at him to stop (which is what we told him to do when someone was bullying him), the kid called him names, then marked on his face in a few spots. My son jerked his arm, I guess as if to hit the kid, and the kid punched my son in the nose. My son had a pencil in his hand, and 'stabbed' him in the forehead. I think that's where it was. Now, we are so NOT ok with that, although he did defend himself, which we didn't think he would do. So, both are suspended from school, but not the bus as they normally would do. The option to press charges was given, but both boys would have been charged, even if only one of us pressed them. What I want to know is this: what the hell am I supposed to teach my son to do in situations like this? He was cornered, and he was hit twice, had his face marked on in a few places. He yelled at the kid to stop, and that made things worse. What is he supposed to do? I know he should have told us the kid had been bothering him, but sometimes that makes things worse. I just don't know what to teach him at this point. Any advice? (Other then to NOT use anything as a weapon, we already talked to him about that)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Jan. 30, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by ironkitten at 3:30 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
I would also meet with the child's parents & the principal together. The kids need to be counseled together with the school counselor.
Answer by samurai_chica at 3:32 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by mamatobe1989 at 3:35 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
I think your son would be a perfect candidate for a self defense course, like karate. I just think it would do him a world of good to be able to defend himself and have the confidence karate or one of the martial arts brings.
Answer by beyondhopes at 3:40 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by Rosehawk at 3:49 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by gou18 at 3:51 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by robinkane at 3:55 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by Kellyjude1 at 4:12 PM on Jan. 30, 2011