I have a friend...who is my opinion is not a very good mother. Okay, so yeah, I lose my temper at times and am working to be more patient with my kids. But for the most part, I try and speak gently and lovingly and we have fun time together and I tell them I love them everyday. This person and I were on the phone recently as she was on her way home from work (note: didn't realize she was driving or I would have hung up the phone...I hate cell phone drivers...but that is another post entirely). She had been working at least eight hours... and she gets in her front door and I hear the sweetest voice yell "MOMMY!!!"
"AWW," I thought. "How cute...that must feel good to get such a nice welcome."
Then the next thing I hear is. "Get off me child! God! I can't even get in the door before you're hanging all over me! Ugh! Damn! Go in your room!"
Umm...okay. I wanted to cuss her out so very badly, but I think I just told her to chill out and that her daughter sure sounded sweet. She didn't seem to detect my underlying disgust.
I noticed a pattern after that. I would comment on her child's cuteness...and she would tell me how bratty she was. I would compliment on a photo of her little boy... she would report that he was too much of a little jerk. NOT ONCE has she said something nice about either of them. She can't even just say "thanks" when I say they are cute. Always a negative.
I'm not sure anything she has done would be CPS worthy... they wouldn't do anything just because she's generally unpleasant. But I feel so badly for her kids. And they were both planned! Why have kids when you, apparently, do not like children? Would you say anything, nicely, encouraging her to ya know... be nice to them...keep your mouth shut...kidnap them and move to Tulsa? (kidding on that last one)
Asked by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on Jan. 30, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:25 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by ILoveCade at 11:27 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Well if her kids are "bratty" they are probably reacting to her. If she is ill so are they. She may just be depressed. I hate to say it, but I was that was at first. It haunts me everyday, but I was in a sever depression. I even ended up being hospitalized for a few days to regulate the anti-depresants they had me on. I finally took myself off of them and started doing self soothing techniques. Anyway she may just be in a rut and feel like her life is going no where. I'm sure she loves her kids she just may not like herself right now.
Answer by luvmygrlz at 11:31 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by ashisamom at 11:32 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
Answer by peace013 at 11:38 PM on Jan. 30, 2011
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Answer by diamondsarecool at 9:28 AM on Jan. 31, 2011
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