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What to do if a job prospect is in another state & your husband's response says no?

Senario - You owe plenty on debt, your deferment is about to run out & you cannot refile, you've cut back and budgeted all that you can, you and your husband had been borrowing from overdraft protection and pawning items just to survive. You've been out of work for a year (or so), working survival minimum wage, or crossing state line for a waged job, and you're just sick of the financial situation. Suddenly, you've been invited for an interview for a decent paying salaried job in Iowa (and you live in Kansas). Job prospects look very good for this new position. With the costs of living expenses and child care, you will still be ahead financially with this new job. And, out of excitement, you accept. Later, you tell your husband about the good news and he responds by saying, "But that's just too far!".

If everything is perfect (financially, child care, and a big boost - i.e. grandparents and more money for family) and your husband says those dreaded words, how do you tell your husband enough's enough, that the family just can't be living this way (broken down) and the smart thing is to accept the job?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:15 AM on Jan. 31, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Does he have a job? Will your new one pay more than his if he does? ...Moving might suck but you've gotta do what you've gotta do. ...And next time, don't accept the offer till you've talked to him about it!

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 AM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • that is tough one. maybe just let him stew it for a bit. make a list of all the good things that will happen if you take this job. change is scary. hope it all works out for you.

    Answer by tanper29 at 11:44 AM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • Write down all the pros and cons. As painful as it might be I'd say take the interview. In this economy you are lucky to get that far. DH here is still out of work and we will move anywhere we have to. And there are plenty of families where one person goes to their job Monday thru Friday and comes back for weekends with the family. I wouldn't mention that option until I really had to though. GL

    Answer by elizabr at 1:15 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • That's a tough one. But with this economy you have to do what you have to do. Let him stew over it a little more and like others have said make a pros and cons list. And you would probably be better off to ask the employer to have some time to think about that way it allows for time for DH to think more.

    Answer by nurbabe82 at 9:06 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

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