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my so's real dad wants to give him 30,000 dollars but my so isnt do i get him to come to his senses and take the least enough to catch up on rent and get a descent

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Asked by suhweetness at 2:46 PM on Jan. 31, 2011 in Relationships

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  • You would be very wise to stay completely out of their discussions about money. There's probably more to this story than you know, and it's possible your boyfriend sees strings attached to the money. So just bite your tongue and say nothing.

    Answer by NannyB. at 2:48 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • Yeah, why is he wanting to give him the money in the first place?

    Answer by 2BlondeBabies at 2:50 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • i know i try not to but i know why he wants to give him the money and its becasue he feels bad for not being there his entire life and trying to make up for it plus its inheritance money form his grandfather passing away

    Comment by suhweetness (original poster) at 2:51 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • I would start by asking why not? If he has a good reason..well..hey..I guess i'd just hafta let it go...

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 2:58 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • I don't blame your SO. You can't makeup for a lifetime of not being there with money. He is trying to buy him out and he doesn't want to get bought out. This is his decision, not yours.

    Answer by Candi1024 at 3:07 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • Keep trying, maybe you can get him to take just enough to get caught up. He could offer to pay it back. Some people 9especially men)just have such an ego that they refuse to take anything from anyone. They think it's their job to pay the bills and taking help would make them less than a good person. Really, your husband needs to think about his family

    Answer by itsmesteph11 at 3:54 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • This is completely up to your SO. You are going to just look bad if you get involved. This is his relationship not yours.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 3:56 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • i understand what you mean by wanting to use the money to help yourselves, and i'd probably wanna do the same. try to explain your side and if he doesnt change his mind then let him be

    Answer by Mrs.L.Mita at 3:57 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

  • i have let him be i only bring it up when he does...and i know its all up to him but it is his inheritance from his grandfather

    Comment by suhweetness (original poster) at 10:34 PM on Jan. 31, 2011

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