I am feeling awfully guilty these days for not getting my 2-1/2 year old out of the house often and allowing her to watch A LOT of TV/movies.
I am a stay-at-home mom of two: my daughter is 2-1/2 yo and my son is 8 months.
This past summer we spent most of our time indoors due to an out-of-state move. I often had on the TV to keep her distracted as I packed, and once we moved in, stuck her in front of the TV so I could unpack.
Once we settled in during the fall, I attempted to take some walks with the kids (baby in a stroller, my daughter walking) but EVERY TIME it was time to return to the house she would have a MELTDOWN. I'd eventually have to drag her by one arm while pushing the stroller with the other to get her home and inside. (We live on a very steep hill & I was always worried that in trying to control her meltdown, the stroller would slip from my grip) It was very difficult and discouraged me from taking her outside often.
Now that the weather is freezing here, it's too cold to do anything outside. She always wants to watch movies, & I let her (Nickelodeon dvds, Pixar movies & such).
The TV use is definitely excessive-- I have it on all day just to keep her entertained. My husband works over 60 miles away and isn't home (and awake!) often. So now I have two kids, two cats and a big house to take care of myself and not nearly enough time in the day. I have tried to "wean" her from the television, but on days that I limit TV time I find I just don't get anything done.
I'd love to take her out shopping with me at night (I have no car during the day), just so she can get some fresh air and get away from the house (& TV!) for a bit but the same thing happens every time-- If she see something she wants (and she ALWAYS does) and can't have it, it's the tantrum of the century. I never know when something will set off a tantrum and it's not only embarrassing, but discouraging.
So most of our days are spent indoors and in front of the TV and I feel horrible about it.
I'd love to know how others entertain their toddlers (with the TV off).
We do love to play Play-Do together, and build blocks and play pretend tea, but there's only so long I can play before my son needs something, or I have housework to get done.
She'll only play on her own for a limited time before she wants the TV on, and being that I have so much to do, I almost always say yes.
Can anyone offer advice!?
I feel like such a crappy mom, is anyone else experiencing something similar (with the TV usage or tantrums outside the house)?
If not the TV, how can I keep my toddler preoccupied while I do other things?
Thanks for reading.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:34 PM on Jan. 31, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)
Answer by MamaWolf1981 at 5:40 PM on Jan. 31, 2011
LOTS of different activities is what worked for me. This isn't a "cure" my kids still watch too much television. Being outside is new to them, of course they don't want to go back in. Take longer walks. Go to the park. Do things like that a lot and she might cut down on the tantrums. Don't be so hard on yourself. There is NO "right" way to parent. Just what you choose to do and what you don't. You identified an area that you think you need some work on which is more than most ever do.
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