My husband and i just moved to this new states about 6 months ago. We left our family and friends back home. Since we have been here, he has made a couple of friends and he goes out with them from time to time. They also come over to our house sometimes to play xbox. Whenever they aren't around he cant stop saying how bored he is. It makes me feel horrible, because when we made the decision to come out here we knew what we were getting into. We talked about how things were gonna be different and how we weren't gonna be going out that much. Another reason it makes me feel bad is cause i don't go out at all. I'm home all day everyday with my kids and i never complain. I have tried talking to him about how it makes me feel and he always cops an attitude and then we end up in an argument. Or it always ends up being my fault cause i don'twant to hire a baby sitter. I'm sorry but its very hard for me to trust strangers with my children. I feel like if i were to hire someone to watch my kids and go out for a date night i wouldn't enjoy myself cause my kids would be on my mind the whole time. When i suggest to do things as a family he always has an excuse as to why he doesn't wanna do it. Does anyone else have issues like this with there husbands? Any advise on how i can make it better for him or us? Thanks so much in advance for any help
I know your history more than anyone little sis...well almost anyone (Moni LOL)! And you know I'm just looking out for you & I love you to death, but I really think that if you all really want to make it work, get yourself some counseling NOW! I think he's being really selfish because I'm not sure if he's intentionally pushing himself away from you & the kids or he's just really unhappy and needs other "people" around to make him feel good about himself. Maybe he is bored...with his life and didn't think it was going to be like this when you left. But that's not your fault! And he shouldn't make you or the kids feel his misery just because he's miserable. That's not right. I love & miss you 3 and want nothing but the best for you. And it pains me to know that you're really sad & lonely out there because you don't have us right next door. But know that we love you & you can always come back home.
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