It seems like my DH goes through this cycle. I just realized it. He will start to get aggitated with me and then turn on me. Like literally one day he will be caring (he does everything for me and is attentive and thoughtful) and the next minute he turns into a man who hates me and wants nothing to do with me. He says the meanest things and we fight every night. He can be very cruel to me. Then when I am about to lose it and pack up to leave (and I feel like I want to die), he switches gears and returns to his thoughtfful caring self. Right now he's being thoughtful/caring. Usually I am so happy to have him "back" that I forget about the bad times. This time I feel haunted by our recent week long fighting. I can't get his nasty words out of my head. He apologized but I guess I just don't trust him at all. I don't feel hopeful like I have in the past. I just am more quiet and he keeps asking me if I am okay and the very LAST thing I want to do is tell him. He has a way of ripping me apart and making me feel worthless when I share my feelings with him at times. I have nightmares every night of him hurting me. Like nightmares of him stabbing me and degrading me. I honestly don't trust him, that he will be there for me. So is this normal? Is it a normal cycle and I am being too sensitive or are other relationships more consistant? What is the deal with my nightmares?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:05 AM on Feb. 1, 2011 in Relationships
I would say this is definitely not very normal, it seems like he has two personalities, this kind of relationship usually escalates into something more than spurs of meanness, suggest counseling.
Answer by older at 8:15 AM on Feb. 1, 2011
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Answer by MKSers at 8:13 AM on Feb. 1, 2011
Sounds like an abusive relationship, get help for both of you or leave because it won't get any better.
Answer by how_reb at 8:13 AM on Feb. 1, 2011
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