I hope this is the right place to ask this.
I have made many mistakes in the past and am paying for them now, but yesterday I got a call that I wasn't expecting. My exbf called to let me know that my daycare provider was soon going to be watching his new baby. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. He wanted to know when my kids are there and when I dropped them off and picked them up. I didn't know what to say. How could he even think this was going to be okay with me. I told him I didn't think it was going to be a good idea, but he said he really liked her and they know she is good with kids. I said I know she is that's why she has watched my kids for almost 4 years.
I called my daycare provider to ask her about this. She said she was going to talk to me about this but just hadn't got to since I am out of town right now. I told her I just couldn't do it and it is her decision, but if she chooses to watch his kid, then I will have to find someone else. She said not to worry about it, but I don't know. The thought that she would have thought I would be okay with this bothers me.
My daycare provider doesn't know much about my relationship with this guy, but I left my husband for him. I thought he was who I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Then I find out he left me for someone else, not sure if it's his kids mom or not. When he left it was so hard on me and my kids.
What would you do or have done? My kids are happy where they are, but I almost feel like I can't trust her anymore. Would you find a new daycare?
I hope that all make since. Thanks mommas!!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on Feb. 1, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by amybaby_19 at 12:49 PM on Feb. 1, 2011
I wouldn't blame her- how would she know of all your personal baggage?? If you're that happy with her I would keep her and try to avoid the times they pick up and drop off. If it just bothers you too much and she ends up taking his family (which she may not) then I guess you'd have to move on. Maybe you're worrying for nothing and like she said she she won't take them on.
Answer by skittles1108 at 12:55 PM on Feb. 1, 2011
She can't be to blame for taking on a new client. Is she being professional about it? As long as she isn't reporting anything to either one of EXCEPT for what is going on with your OWN child then yes, I would stick with her. She is not your personal nanny, she has the right to choose her own clients.
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