Alright ladies, bear with me. This is a sort of long story and I know a few parts will be super easy to bash but I'd appreciate it if you could go easy on me (:
My friend Abby and her boyfriend Seth asked me to go to a bar with them one night, my car is in the shop from a bad accident so I told them I'd need a ride. Abby says she has a friend named Drake who can pick me up cause he lives close to me and was going too. I said okay...I asked Abby a little about Drake and she said he was a very nice guy so I was like cool.
He picks me up, we talk in the car and he is telling me stories about crazy ex's and it gets awkward when he says "yeah and she was like divorced with two kids, so not attractive to a 21 year old male" and I was like "yeah, I know I'm only 20 but I'm divorced and I have a child" and he starts busting out laughing and explains that he was only freaked out by the other girl cause she'd been hiding that from him for 2 weeks and then finally told him.
Anyway...we get to the bar, he pulls out my chair and is all gentlemen like and he buys me a few shots and I'm feeling good...not drunk...just good. He's pretty tipsy as well and then we go eat pancakes lol and he asks if I want to stay at Abby's or if I want him to take me back to my place. I want to go back to my place cause Abby's place is tiny and I really wasn't in the mood to hear her and Seth getting it on. So we go.
On the way he says "would you want to come back to my place and watch a movie or something?" I'm not dumb..I know he really means to have sex but I'm like okay.
So we go back, watch a movie and then end up having sex. This is the first time I've EVER done something like that so in the morning...I'm feeling pretty crappy about myself. He takes me to breakfast...drops me off at home and I'm thinking I'll never hear from him again...well he calls me a few hours later and asks me if I want to go out later.
To make a long story short, for the past 3 weeks we've been together almost every night, he always asks me to to hang out, I never initiate it.
We've only had sex 3 times out of all the nights I've stayed over...we usually go to dinner, watch a movie and then cuddle and go to sleep.
Well, he told me he doesn't want to be official yet because he has trust issues cause he's been screwed over in the past really badly and I understand...so he said he'd like to be official possibly in the next month or two. But he also says he's not exactly sure what he wants but that if he decides at any point he knows for sure we won't date then he will be honest with me, we also have an agreement not to fool around with anyone else and that if something happened it'd be treated how it should be in a relationship, tell the other person and split up. So for 3 weeks now we've been going through the motions without the title. He seems like a no bs kind of guy and like he'd tell me if anything changed but I'm not gonna lie, I have my reservations as I've been hurt too.
Well he went to Lexington for a night to see a friend from his hometown named Mark and Mark's girlfriend and while there he met a girl name Ginger. I know he didn't do anything with Ginger because I was dumb and read his facebook message when he left the room where he told his friend that he was trying to decide whether to accept or decline Ginger's invite for him to go back the next weekend and see her. I got upset of course and told him I saw it and he got mad, and said that he was mad I didn't trust him and that he told her he wasn't going to visit her and that he was going to be staying in all weekend with me. But while I'm at his house the past few nights...he's texting her and other people too but still. So I finally asked him what's up with that and he tells me that he's an overly social being and that every time his phone goes off he will answer...even if the person that's talking to him annoys the heck out of him and that yes he may answer her texts but it's me he choses to be with every night and stuff and that I can ask Abby if I don't believe he always answers. So I do ask Abby and she says it's true, even when he's mad as hell at you he will still answer your texts, doesn't matter who you are.
Still....I just don't know what to make of this whole situation.
What do you ladies think is up with him? Is he genuine or should I let him go?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:31 PM on Feb. 2, 2011 in Relationships
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