Okay, so I have this friend.... she had a very short relationship with this guy and got pregnant. Their son is now a year old and he has only seen him a few times and when he does its due to selfish acts (such as trying to impress his new girlfriend by giving her the impression he is a great dad) anyway, she is starting to think that it might be a good idea to not allow him to see his child because of the mind games but still allow him to pay her child support. Though money doesnt make a father and nothing justifies his horrible behavior I think this is a bad idea. I don't think a parent should be kept away from their child unless health is in danger (drug abuse, etc) but her other friends have talked her into it saying "its bad for the childs self esteem because they will wonder why daddy is only around a little" I however, growing up with a father in and out of my life believe that the door should remain open in case he ever decides to man up, that way when the child grows up they wont look at it as mommy kept me away from daddy but mommy gave him chances and he never took them.
Am I alone in this? What does everyone else seem to think?
I dont think this is right, self esteem problems my ass. I went through it as a child and it made me stronger but I cant speak from a mothers point of view only a daughters
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