Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

2 Bumps

WHO knows an Addict??

So my best friend is addicted to pain pills. Slowly getting off. I have feelings for him, but I really just don't wanna trust him. I'm there for him, but not WITH him. It's frustrating because he's GREAT and loves the way men should when he's sober. Is this a life long battle for him? Should I not hold my breath??

Answer Question

Asked by mamastyles at 1:40 AM on Feb. 3, 2011 in Relationships

Level 12 (857 Credits)
Answers (5)
  • It is hard. He is lucky to have you. Why can't this stop?

    Answer by tootoobusy at 1:42 AM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • His dad is an addict. It's been an on and off struggle for 4 years. He can't afford rehab or he would go. He's strong, but the withdrawls are what gets him. Also, he has no insurance which sucks because he gets HORRIBLE teeth pain and he NEEDS some teeth pulled. (wisdom teeth). SO as soon as he gets clean, his teeth cause him major pain and it's a never ending cycle. Ugh.

    Comment by mamastyles (original poster) at 1:49 AM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • Look for rehabs in your area. Many are free or charitable. Call local churches.

    Answer by Proverbs_31 at 2:11 AM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • Sadly, you shouldn't get involved with him for some time. He needs to get to relearn how to deal with life without the aid of pills. Even if his life was pain-free there is an emotional attachment to the pills. The pills  are a form of escape, a romantic relationship would seriously harbor his sobriety.    In many states they have DSHS programs for rehab.


    Answer by Opie99 at 2:37 AM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • I agree with Opie99. My ex-husband is an alcoholic. I finally had to cut him loose and save myself and my daughter. They need to learn how to live life sober and learn who they are before they can be good relationship material. Until then, the real him isn't there.

    Answer by Meeshelle08 at 1:52 PM on Feb. 3, 2011

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.