My one BFF has been having a hard time as a single parent, so she lives with me and my 2 kids. No problem, house is big enough. Her older sister has always tried to meddle in her life regarding her daughter whom is 5 and cause my friend has not worked in a while ( trying to get disability cause of back issues she found out about, not work related) her sister all on her own has bought her kid stuff since she was born. She and her hubby has asked if she needed anything or just said they would buy things for her from clothes, shoes being she was not working and cant afford to anymore.
Then her sister has her daughter at her house for the holiday last year. She comes back up with a friend of hers and her husbands, comes into my house to tell my friend we can come up here to help you clean, and get your carpets cleaned and give you something for the bathroom to organize things like a shelf then says she needed a dresser for her kids clothes. Which she could use, but does not really need cause they fit in the drawer, her daughter hates to put up clothes so they stay in the basket which she folds but her sister thinks she should have this and that. Buys her niece too much, and the kid acts ungrateful. not all the time just some. But she never met this friend of her sisters til they jut showed up.
Now my friends sister is all mad at her cause she told her to stop buying her kid so much cause she is becoming materialistic like she is, sure the daughter needed things but she went and bought too much for the holiday after saying she was only buying a few things. then she tells the sister she spent X amount and how if she gave a damn about her kid she would find a job regardless of her back pain and take care of her respsonsibility so she did not have to worry about her kid being she hasnt.
My friend has repeatedly told the sister to stop overloading the kid with stuff, cause she now expects it. She said she did not want their help and then the sister says her friend did not have to offer to clean our carpets, or offer a dresser up to them but thats what friends of friends do, so being my friend told her sister NO, she calls her a selfish ungrateful person whom needs to get her priorities straight cause friends help friends and help out when they can.
And when she calls she asks the niece 50 questions and then tells their father whom is way too old to worry about what his daughters have to say regarding the grandchild, she just wants to speak to the niece not her sister.
I don't know what to tell her. She wants to stay away from her for a while and keep the niece away from her Aunt too cause according to the sister, she needs to keep upthe healthy relationship they have together as aunt and niece and she wont buy the niece anything else other than upcoming birthday present maybe.
She has always meddled into her life and I stayed out of it but since she brought me into the mix telling me how I should keep my house with my kids and they will come help us clean it, who the heck is SHE????
And she is not a parent herself. I was mad. Kept my mouth shut and now my friend just wants to steer clear from her and not be in touch at all.
Sorry this is so long but I dont know what to say. I myself would tell her to not speak to her for a long time cause all she does is tell her how to discipline her child, what she should do and not do.....when she does not even ask the sister for advice, she just tells her off about things so they argue over it.
Any advice? Thanks very much.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:41 AM on Feb. 3, 2011 in Relationships
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