When he throws out of anger or frustration just say, "it is not okay to throw our toys" and pick up what he threw and don't give it back. Tell him it is okay to be angry, but he needs to use his words or take a cool down time out until he can use his words. Balls or soft stuffed animals in a mutual game of catch are the only things we allow thrown in our house. Any time something is thrown in anger we acknowledge it is okay to be angry/frustrated etc, but it is not okay to throw. Someone may get hurt or something may get broken. Help him to learn words that he can use to describe and express how he's feeling. Teach him, "I'm angry!" and give him a positive outlet. Let him play with playdough or someother hands on activity that he can vent his frustration. Keep old phone books and when he is angry/frustrated he can go to a designated place and tear the pages out until he feels calmer (then he cleans it up).
at 3:41 PM on Feb. 3, 2011