Our adopted child is emotionally and socially developmentally delayed. She also had ADD, OCD and is learning disabled. She is on medication, goes to counseling up to 3 times a week and sees a psychiatrist once a month. At 10 she is just beginning to read, tell time, etc. We have been told that despite being 10, mentally she is closer to a child of 6-7 years old though she is quite fluent with computers.
She is in a very small, special needs class at her school and has become extremely attached to her teachers. She was once very active playing outside after school and now simply goes to her room to play alone only coming down for dinner. It's almost like she's biding time until she can get back to school. We try to engage her in conversation, do fun things with her, etc and she seems fine but always very anxious to get to school.
During conversations with her we hear almost nothing except what her teacher did that day, how wonderful her teachers thinks she is, how she said something and the teachers laughed at her. The other day I found that she was carrying toys to school to give to her teachers as a gift. We let her know that she didn't need to give her teachers gifts for them to like her - that they liked her without her having to give them anything.
Her teachers birthday is coming up and our child decided to make a card for her. She asked how to spell the teachers name as well as how to write it. She has watched my other child google information on the computer for homework reasons and during her computer time googled her teachers name to get her phone number and address.
We asked her immediately what she planned to do with that info - and she had no good reason. When we looked through the cards she had made for teacher we found that they had the following sentiments - "I love you so much, I love you, you are like God." She had made at least 4 cards all expressing her love for this teacher.
My husband and I told her that sentiments that deep were really inappropriate for her to be expressing to her teacher - as well as googling her teachers name.
Since then we are constantly asked questions like "What do you think my teacher likes to eat for dinner? Do you think my teacher likes this color?" Then comes the very strange information from her like - "My teacher gave me this candy today because I massaged her fingers." Then, this past week, one of her teachers gave her a gift and card for her birthday. This was not a small token but a nearly $20 gift given to her because as my child relayed to me "I am more special than the other kids."
So, now my child is smitten with two teachers and I am seeing red flags and thinking....is this really happening??????
I think my child's behavior borders on obsessive and is very worrisome. I think the teacher was inappropriate in giving my child such a gift - regardless of the fact that it was her birthday. She hasn't done this for her other students. To be completely honest the whole situation just feels very creepy to me and I hate that I have that feeling related to my child's behavior.
I have called her therapist and requested a meeting with her ASAP!!!! to discuss the situation. What would you do?
What do you think? Am I overreacting to my childs behavior?
I've just never experienced anything like this...at a loss. Any advice or comments are truly appreciated. Thank you!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Feb. 3, 2011 in General Parenting
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