I need a little advice and a few opinions. My husband does not seem very interested or enthusiastic about our first pregnancy. I am almost 18 weeks along and I am hoping that the 20 week ultrasound helps but I'm feeling a bit discouraged. It was an unplanned pregnancy and when I first found out I was in shock...he told me he was being reserved for my sake because I seemed so upset but I quickly fell in love with this baby and was excited about it.
Anyway, I guess one of the main things that hurt was the fact that I felt the baby kick for the first time so I ran downstairs to tell him and he was on his console. He gave me a two second glance and said "nice" before going back to shooting things...ouch. I am trying to make sure he is apart of this. I invite him to all my appointments and he does go but he rarely seems enthusiastic about those, infact he mainly does annoying things to get me all upset right before the OB comes in. I even let him know how I'm feeling if he asks...I told him my back hurts and he asks me if I want him to punch me in the stomach so I can forget about my back! Ummm....WHAT?! I know he was joking, but still. I don't understand this. He told me he was worried about being an outcast because my dad wasn't around me when I was little and it was just my mom, sister and I and we kind of shut out the men in our lives and he didn't want to be shutout but I feel like he doesn't want to be a part either!
Before you say "try telling him all this"... I have. Multiple times. I have explained my feelings about it and asked why he did not seem interested. He tells me he is and he will do better to show it, but he never really tries. I feel like I'm talking to a wall or something! I'm starting to become resentful when he does correct me now if I accidently say "my baby" or something because he doesn't even take part in anything and when he does, he just attempts to piss me off.
He gets all excited and animated over baseball games, or seeing his buddy...so why not his own baby? I get that it's not real to him like it is to me. But he doesn't even understand how real it is to me. I feel stupid to talk to the baby or read to the baby when he is around now.
Anyway, that's basically what's been going on since day 1 and I don't really know what else to do. I feel very isolated. I live thousands of miles away from all of my family, 4 hours from his and have no friends up here. Now I'm snowed in cause he won't even shovel my side of the driveway so I sit home alone all day while he works, and I sit home alone all evening while he plays the computer and his console... :(
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Asked by Anonymous at 9:02 PM on Feb. 3, 2011 in Pregnancy
this is a great book. helped hubby fell invovled and got him to understand how i was feeling
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