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Trying to find birth mother. Birthmother trying to find adoptee?

Born March 17, 1988 in Odessa, TX. Adopted through Catholic Charities.

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Penguin88

Asked by Penguin88 at 9:10 PM on Feb. 3, 2011 in Adoption

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  • Wow! Good luck! And when you find her and all your answers, have an open heart and mind.
    parajumper3

    Answer by parajumper3 at 9:12 PM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • are u the mother or the child? If ur the child maybe u should start by searching Odessa, Tx. I don't think its that large.
    Proverbs_31

    Answer by Proverbs_31 at 9:18 PM on Feb. 3, 2011

  • I am the child and I have searched there. It was a closed adoption and I have hardly any information, and what I do have is non-identifying.
    Penguin88

    Comment by Penguin88 (original poster) at 12:02 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Check out the "Adoption Search Resources" group here on CM. http://www.cafemom.com/group/35065 Also register on Soundex http://www.isrr.net/ and on Adoption.com http://registry.adoption.com/ . Then google for a search angel in your state. A search angel is someone who volunteers their time to connect people separated by adoption. They know all the tricks.
    Best of luck!
    onethentwins

    Answer by onethentwins at 4:53 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Oh and leave a message in your file with Catholic Charities stating you'd welcome contact.
    onethentwins

    Answer by onethentwins at 4:54 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • texas has a birth index. ill look and see if i can find you a free link. will post if i find it
    adopteeme

    Answer by adopteeme at 8:33 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • working on it for you and asking around for help
    adopteeme

    Answer by adopteeme at 8:57 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • good luck and hope u get what ur looking for
    san78

    Answer by san78 at 7:00 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Things to try...

    --Texas has a passive, mutual consent registry. You can see if your birth mother has placed a consent on file for you to have identifying information about her. http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/vs/reqproc/adoptionregistry.shtm . If there is no consent on file, do not be discouraged. Just because the state has a registry does not mean she knows about it (she can't register if she doesn't know, right? :-) ). It's worth a shot.

    --Check with your agency. Do they have reunion services? Can they give you non-identifying information from your file?

    --Check with a search angel or search angel group. I have a friend who is a search angel in TX, not sure if she is still doing it, I will ask her.

    --Register/check with isrr.net and registry.adoption.com
    NovemberLove

    Answer by NovemberLove at 11:51 PM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Hello,
    I'm a search angel ( I help people search for family members for free) and I'm also an adoptee. I live in Texas and work on searches here and also across the country. Feel free to contact me at my facebook page and I will try to help you locate your family. Texas does have what is called a birth index and I have access to it.

    Tricia
    Inluvwithhim

    Answer by Inluvwithhim at 1:40 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

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